NEW YEAR MESSAGE
A new year beckons. Ahead of us lie 365 days. Those are our days. They are up to us to design as we see fit. Yes, you have to go to work, but ultimately that is a trade-off decision we make — to have a house, a car, and food on the table.
You may say, “I have no choice.” That is not true. We all have a choice. We may not like the consequences of the easy path, but we do have the choice. This is our life. This is our time, and this thing called life — this project — is the greatest project you will ever work on.
I have given much thought to what drives me. As a trader, I can stand accused of being “all about money”. That is true, but only to a certain extent. For you to understand my argument, I will demonstrate by way of a hypothetical example.
I have a choice of making $100 by taking risk, pushing myself into uncomfortable terrain — mentally speaking — dealing with emotions of fear, discomfort, and uncertainty about what comes next. I will have to be the best version of myself to make that $100. In fact, I have to be better than the best version of myself, because I have to break the mould and expand my limitations.
Or I can make $200 doing something that doesn’t challenge me, doesn’t stretch me, doesn’t push my limits, but merely goes over the same old, worn skill set.
I have this choice to make every day. I believe you do too. I know which option I will pick every time. One represents growth. The other represents safety and comfort. One provides an opportunity for abundance of unseen and unspoken proportions. The other represents no real, meaningful growth — neither spiritually, nor financially, nor emotionally.
Real growth comes from seeking the unknown. Real growth doesn’t make noise. It is the quiet focus, the daily effort that no one sees, that no one comments on (except the naysayers who are afraid you will leave them behind), that no one applauds you for doing.
It is your journey. It is my journey. It is done early in the morning, when everyone is asleep. It is done late at night, when the world is watching TV. We sit in silence — planning, building a vision of our future, refining our plans, plotting the next day, the next week, the next month, and the next year.
And here comes the most important part of this message. We don’t do it for the gold watch and the pat on the back. We don’t do it to impress the world. We do it to impress ourselves — to command self-appreciation, to feel self-respect, to value self-love, to walk and think with self-confidence.
This is our journey. It is not your wife’s journey. It is not your husband’s journey. It is not our children’s journey. This is our journey. You will never truly know the joy and value of critical self-appraisal until it comes from deep within — that voice saying, “I gave it my all, and I am 100% responsible for the outcome.” That is what trading can give us.
You are disciplined when no one is watching. You are persistent when everyone falters on their New Year’s resolutions. You are resilient when life throws you a curveball. You keep your own counsel while everyone around you is quick to cast judgement on your decisions. This is your journey. This is my journey.
The greatest feeling you will ever experience is looking yourself in the mirror, smiling, knowing that you conquered your fears — all your perceptions of shortcomings and inadequacies, all the self-imposed limitations you created by modelling yourself around the expectations of your family, friends, and society, all the mental constraints you inherited from your upbringing, from your surroundings, from your parents, siblings, friends, and enemies.
You look at that reflection, knowing you have given the universe irrefutable evidence of the fact that you are who you say you are.
That is when you will have peace within. It is knowing that you have conquered the inner world — and that you continue to do so. You do what you say you will do. That is success. That is peace. That is the ultimate quest in life.
Happy New Year.
Tom Hougaard