I can't stay silent any longer, so here it is, my experience with Demi-Pact.
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If you have questions please feel free to ask, I will be adding to this document as more comes out, but wanted to make sure I spoke up sooner rather than later
I’ve rewritten this post more times than I can count. I’ve reviewed screenshots, built timelines, and laid everything out piece by piece, only to realize that none of it actually changes the actions I need to take to move forward.
The truth is simple: I reacted the way someone does when they feel cornered. For over a year, I’ve lived in fear of a specific individual after they systematically stripped away my sense of safety in a space I once considered home. In the process, friendships I had built over years were nearly destroyed. While there have been repeated instances where people close to me were targeted because of their association with me, the evidence I have is largely circumstantial. It depends heavily on the perspective of someone who was once close enough to witness circumstances that occurred to others, and patterned behavior I’ve seen before. Trying to explain that makes me feel like the Pepe Silvia meme.
Because of that, I decided the safest choice, for myself and for the people I care about, was ultimately to remove myself from that space and stay quiet. I still believe not naming this person is the right decision. I don’t want revenge or problems for them. I just want peace. And I understand that peace requires me to let go of my fear as well.
Recently several people who I love where suddenly effected by a situation that hurt them. Alongside other contributing factors, my immediate thought was that this person was at it again. I reacted out of fear, and in doing so, I hurt the very people I was trying to protect. I regret that deeply. While I may not be able to completely free myself from that fear overnight, I refuse to let it continue affecting the people I care about.
So I’m choosing clarity.
My solution is the same one I’ve quietly followed for the past year, but now I’m stating it openly: I will continue being fully, unapologetically myself. I will act with consistency and transparency so that no one has to guess where I stand. The only difference moving forward is this, I will not give in to fear.
I’ve severed every tie I can with this individual. There is no reason for them to be involved in my life or my work, and no reason for me to continue living as though something is happening behind the scenes. If I or anyone close to me is discussed in a way that raises red flags, I ask that you come directly to me. I promise to treat you with respect, listen fully, and clarify whatever I can. Situations like this escalate when we don’t confirm accuracy and communicate with each other. If we want this space to be safe, we have to prioritize clarity over assumption, despite the reality of having uncomfortable conversations.
To reiterate: I am not naming this individual and I request that you respect my wishes to not go looking either. If I’m asked about this situation in the future, I’ll refer back to this post. This is all I intend to say on the matter.