At a book group attended by
@AShulman2, Sally Rooney's Intermezzo was being discussed. About the relationship between two brothers and the women in their lives, the book delves into the thorny question of commitment. "As we debated the pros and cons of throuples, one of my friends – the founder of mental health hub
Welldoing.org – informed us that 'consensual non-monogamy' is currently a big issue in her field," she wrote in
@DailyMailUK.
"We all looked baffled. Of course we all knew about free love, open marriages and people generally exploring sex outside a relationship. But we hadn't heard of this strange new term.
"No wonder younger people find the whole dating scene a minefield, with its vast vocabulary to describe every possible type and style of relationship. I've only just got my head around 'situationship' (a casual relationship) and now there's a whole other category to deal with.
"It doesn't sound like much fun. We all agreed it's become clear by our stage of life that open relationships generally lead to unhappiness and confusion. Calling it 'consensual non-monogamy' and formalising the idea of having your cake and eating it – sexually speaking – won't make much difference. But I guess we have to let the younger crew learn that for themselves."