random financial advice anyone?

Niggas be like “its easy to move on” yeah nigga because you had a no good for nothing ass bitch. I had the queen of the universe

It is deeply draining to be around people who lack emotional intelligence and self-control. Personal growth requires looking past yourself to see how your actions affect others. Making excuses or having good intentions is not enough; what truly matters is owning the impact you leave behind. If your actions cause harm, your positive intentions mean very little. True maturity is understanding that your words, actions, and choices all carry significant weight. Ignoring the damage you cause does not make it disappear. Growth is about accountability, not just aspiration. It's about recognizing the real consequences of your behavior and choosing to do better.

I'm at a point in life where I refuse to deal with anything unnecessary. If it drains me, disrespects me, or disrupts my peace, I'm removing myself. Unfollowing, blocking, walking away - whatever it takes. My wellbeing comes first now.

I told my therapist, "I feel safest when I do everything on my own." She didn't ask why. She just said, "That's not independence... that's grief." And that hit me. Because it really is grief, isn't it? Grief for all the times you reached out and no one showed up. Grief for being the one who had to stay strong while everything around you fell apart. Grief for learning way too early that you couldn't rely on anyone to come through for you. You didn't choose to be this strong... you had to be. Because falling apart didn't feel safe. Crying didn't fix anything. And depending on people usually ended in disappointment. So you adapted. You became overly prepared. You plan ahead for everything. You double-check everything-doors, messages, emotions. You carry that "I'll handle it" mindset... even when you're overwhelmed inside. People call you independent. But they don't see the part of you that's tired. The part of you that just wants to let go for once... and feel safe enough to be held without worrying if you'll be dropped again.

Discernment is real. You can hear stuff that's not being said! You can feel things and don't even have to be in close proximity! You can detect a lie from miles away! Sometimes it feels like a blessing and a curse because that third eye be awake and sometimes it be the closest people to you. I know a lie, I know a bad attitude, I can feel a shift in energy without hard evidence and it's something I just can't shake. That's why I'm so big on peace and walk away easily from things and people that don't bring it.

People be knowing they wrong. But instead of being grown about it, apologizing, or taking accountability... they'll flip the whole situation and act like you did something to them. I done seen people try to make me feel like I was the problem in situations they started. I done watched folks blame me just to avoid admitting they moved foul. And that's why I can't respect certain people... not even a little bit. If you can't own what you did, if you gotta lie just to feel right, we not the same. I stand on what I do. I fix what I mess up. And that's the difference between us.

I'm officially at the age I don't want to be around people who are not self aware. Continuously putting themselves in bad positions, making bad life choices, toxic ways/lifestyles, no priorities lacking accountability etc.

Be careful about having relationships with people with no emotional intelligence. They will never understand you, they will personalize everything, and you will never be seen and heard. Be careful about having relationships with people who can't regulate their emotions you will always be at the mercy of their rages, and bad moods. Be careful about having relationships with people with no self awareness, they have no idea how their behavior affects the people around them, so it's a matter of time before you get hurt. Be careful about having relationships with people without empathy, they will never see or care about how you feel.If no one has ever told you, I am telling you now. Look for people in your life with emotional intelligence, self awareness, empathy and the ability to regulate their emotions or you will be at the mercy of their dysfunction and pay the price for their immaturity and lack of growth.

You might not realize it now, but one day the thing that hurt you the most will also be the thing that changed your standards forever. Pain has a strange way of clarifying what you will never tolerate again.

The relationship you have with yourself right now is setting the template for every relationship you will have after this. If you are critical of yourself they will be critical of you. If you abandon yourself they will abandon you. If you do not believe you are worthy of real love you will keep finding evidence to confirm it. The most urgent relationship in your life is not the one you just left. It is the one you are having with yourself right now.

If your ex started dating someone right after you broke up, that means the other person was there the whole time.

I'll lose my relationship before I lose a argument bitch I know I ain't wrong 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭

Your ex might not have been the man for you, but he will be for his next girl. And your man probably wasn't the best for his ex but he's the best for you. Your friends might not really be ya friends, but they're ride or die for others. It's really life. Not everybody meant for a lifetime people either a blessing or a lesson, don't spend your whole life tryna figure it out.

The realest advice I can give you this morning is to let people earn you. We are so quick to give, grant access, and get comfortable with others without merit. Just to end up disappointed from failed expectations and reciprocation. We should preserve more of ourselves.

Comparing yourself to others distorts your ability to see the good you are doing. It derails you from focusing on what you can control. Comparison can rob your happiness and impede you from the thing that matters most: Developing into the best version of yourself.

I like consistency but don’t introduce me to a vibe you can’t maintain.

Date women that like you.

Respecting your partner is deeper than just staying faithful. Respecting your partner means to also respect their voice and allow them to be heard. Respect is communication. Respect is avoiding the same mistakes or things you know will make your partner mad/sad. Respecting your partner is thinking before you speak. Respecting your partner is being their number one fan. Respect is sometimes 'just' an attempt to understand. Respect is empathy. Respect is effort. Respect is love.

Nobody is really ready to hear this but sometimes it's really your fault. You're suffering that because you chose it. You were the one who put yourself in that situation. You were responsible for those consequences because you did that to yourself. You have to take accountability sometimes rather than blaming it to other people or on the situation itself. You did that to you so get yourself out from there.

Yes, it can survive, but it takes honest communication, mutual respect, and healing. A disagreement about a pregnancy is one of the hardest challenges a couple can face, and whether the relationship lasts often depends on how both people process and navigate the situation afterward.