How to trick your brain into doing difficult things 🧵

A friend called me on a Thursday night...... She had been praying for this promotion for two years. Two years of showing up early, staying late, and watching people she trained get elevated above her, smiling through it and crying in the car on the way home. Then last month it finally came, by the third week she called me again, but a different voice this time, it was tired with cracked at the edges. She said, "I don't think I was ready for this." She was managing a team for the first time. People who used to be her peers. People who had opinions about her being selected. People who were testing her quietly every single day. - She was sitting in meetings where decisions had real consequences. - She was being copied on emails that required judgment she had never been asked to exercise before. She told me, "I prayed so hard for this seat. Now that I'm in it, I don't know what to do with it." I didn't say what I was thinking immediately; I just listened, but what I was thinking was this: the promotion came, but the preparation didn't come with it. This is what we need to know about the seasons that feel like a delay. - The three years you spent watching from the side. - Taking notes nobody asked you to take. - Learning systems nobody told you to learn. - Carrying responsibilities that were above your pay grade and below anyone's notice. That was not a delay but the curriculum. - The toxic manager who made you develop patience you did not know you needed was not punishment, and that was emotional intelligence being built in conditions that could not be manufactured any other way. - The project that failed in front of everyone and you had to stand there and take it was load bearing preparation for a moment that had not arrived yet. David killed the lion and the bear in private, which built in him what public victories cannot build; Goliath came later, but the lion came first. Joseph ran Egypt, but he served in Potiphar's house first; he managed a prison before he managed a nation, not because God was cruel, but you cannot govern what you have not first learned to serve. My friend is still in the role, figuring it out day by day, but she told me something last week that stopped me completely. She said, "I wish I had spent less time praying for the title and more time asking God what He was trying to build in me before He released me into it." I have been thinking about that ever since. See the version of you that arrives unprepared will be dismantled by the very thing you prayed for. - The seat will expose what the waiting was supposed to develop and if the waiting was wasted. The exposure will be brutal. So here is the question I want to leave with you. The season you are currently in, the one that feels like stagnation like being overlooked, like everyone is moving and you are standing still, - what is it trying to build in you not what is it keeping from you. - what is it building in you. These are two completely different questions and only one of them will prepare you for what is coming.

One of the things we need to learn quickly is that we shouldn't be people pleasers, and a valuable lesson in leadership is that misunderstandings are inevitable for growth and tend to become distractions if not handled properly. When we understand this, we prepare for this kind of occurrence while facing our growth roadmap

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If things feel tense or disconnected at home, you don't always need a deep, heavy conversation to fix it. Sometimes, sitting face to face just feels like a high pressure interrogation. Do this instead... Drop everything and go for a walk together. You can't scroll on your phone while walking. You are moving side by side, which naturally lowers the tension and makes it easier to just talk about your day. Keep it simple. Stop forcing big dramatic sit downs. A quiet twenty minute walk can break a bad cycle faster than hours of arguing.

It is not a space to be really, especially because of the pressure that seemingly starts coming from all angles or when the married friends now do not want to communicate with you anymore. In the end, by the time you settle down, i pray it is with a good man that you both will grow together,

My take from this is more prayers, and God just help us go in there and bring out a healthy baby with the mother alive. In my 38 weeks, my doctor suggested a possible CS, which wasn't part of our plan all along, because he detected the possibility of my baby's cord around his neck during the scan. I told my husband, and we told God to do what was best and agreed to do the CS. On the day of the CS, it took over 30 minutes to bring out my son because I had an earlier CS 3years earlier in a different hospital, and when my son was brought out, he had the cord around his neck and his knee; it was even knotted. How would I have pushed that out, myself? In all prayers to have a medical team with good hands.

How to trick your brain into doing difficult things 🧵

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Thanks for this, and this is why we soak in gratitude for the things He has done before, the ones that He is doing, and will do. Gratitude helps us glide through these seasons easily