Arguments almost never change anyone’s mind, because more often than not, people are not defending their stance, they are defending their intelligence. In the heat of an argument, the issue is rarely the issue itself; what is really at stake is the fear of appearing foolish. And so the conversation becomes a performance, not a pursuit of truth.
Change usually happens later, in private, when the person is no longer performing their intelligence for an audience. It happens quietly, when there is no need to protect pride.
That is, if the belief is strong enough to be conceived at all. Ironically, being strong in what you believe demands a certain fragility. True conviction expects you to be secure enough to let it break. The same strength that allows you to hold a belief must also allow you to loosen your grip on it.
Because real strength is not rigidity. It is the confidence to withstand the possibility of being wrong.
i used to have this mental illness where i thought logical arguments would change someone's mind