I think our elders didn’t do a good job at modeling how friendship changes from adolescence/young adulthood to 30s and beyond. A lot of us think friendships are supposed to look & feel like they did when we were in high-school & college. & thats just not realistic.
I do not subscribe to “catch up” culture anymore. If we’re not actively in each others lives anymore I’ll just have to call you an acquaintance.