When my sister wanted to get married, my parents sent a “spy” to go to her husband’s village to ask questions and find out about the family. Are they ‘osu’? Is anyone mad in the family? Has he been married before? Does he have any kids?
A community always has information.
Bring back family/community investigation before marriage.
Ladies, speak to your male friends, brothers about the man you’re dating - There’s just something they would easily see, you may not.
Generally, speak to people about the person you’re going to date before you dive in.