I used to think like this until I started dealing with ppl, platonically and romantically, who were secure enough to be genuinely kind. if you are mean to me or I have to be mean to you for you to respect me as a human, you're a loser to me and you will not be in my life
I feel like this applies to everyone lol. If you don’t remind people every once in awhile that you’re smitten by choice they start to perceive you as spineless.