In my parents’ house, nobody was waking up by 5am to start frying egg and boiling yam for anybody. Breakfast was, tea and bread, cereal or if you want stress, tell the cook to make it for you. So I carried this peaceful upbringing proudly into marriage. Big mistake 🙆🏾‍♀️. One morning after I got married, my husband casually woke me up by 6am to ask what he would have for breakfast before work.  It even sounded strange to me because what do you mean I should come and make breakfast? 😭 I said, tea is there. Apparently that was not the correct answer. Omo that was our first marital disagreement “breakfast”. When I called my mother to complain, thinking she would support me, this woman switched sides immediately. Very early the next morning, she woke my sisters up and announced, “Wake up and learn how to prepare breakfast for your husbands before your husbands return you people to sender.” According to gist later, my sisters said the way she was talking, you would think she personally used to prepare full buffet breakfast for us growing up. This same woman that raised us on “make your own breakfast” suddenly became Chef Hilda Baci because somebody got married.

I marry my wife when I was 23 and she was 22 after dating from age 18 & 17, we've been together since 2013. 13years of being together now with 2 beautiful kids.💞☺️

😂😂😂 oh they do. They respect the uniforms. When I'm in Nigeria, I always flash the camo, funny how they've never approach me, maybe because of the confidence I walk with. I have walked pass them couple times and no one stop me.

Absolutely agree. Independence isn't about distrust it's about self respect and options.

None of my mutuals can finish this in one sitting! So sad 😁😭

He often beats me, but I’m hoping marriage will change him. What do we call a woman thinking like this? 🤔

If you don’t trust them, leave. If you don’t see a future, leave. ‘Serious relationship’ shouldn’t be a category, commitment should be.

If you’re in a relationship, you’re in a relationship! Which one is “serious relationship“? Is there something I’m not understanding? You don’t trust the person? QUIT! You don’t see any future with the person? QUIT! Being in more than one relationship makes you a WH0R£!

Children shouldn’t have to choose between cultures. Teach them both, but never disconnect them from their father’s roots and heritage.

As a woman, if you married from a different ethnicity from yours. Allow your children familiarize with the ethnicity of their father. That is their identity!

Nobody is getting out of this alive.

Ladies at work after getting their nails done: 💅😂

At the end of the day >>>>> Can you complete it ?👇

Taking birth control pills while joining your husband to pray for kids is witchcraft.

My friend wants to introduce me to her brother 🤭 who knows I fit marry this year 😂 Which should I wear ? A. Or. B

Exactly. Some people make long lists of requirements for a partner, then ignore the one requirement they should be asking of themselves: self control. A person’s values matter far more than whether they tick a particular box.

You dey mind them? It's the same with Virgin or not guys. They get married to a lady (virgin or not), then go ahead and still cheat while married. Self control is so far from them. They will tell you its their biology. Lol

Adaptation to environment plus 'see finish'. Abroad, necessity (both working, strict laws, different cultural expectations) forces teamwork. Back home with a Naija woman, familiar roles kick in and no one rocks the boat unless both agree to change. Marriage works best when both set clear expectations early, not assumptions. Teamwork shouldn't depend on passport or skin color.

I've noticed a pattern with Nigerian men who are very traditional. When they go abroad and marry a white woman, they quickly drop that traditional mentality and start doing household chores. They cook, clean, bathe the kids, and run errands. Once they marry a Nigerian woman, they suddenly remember gender roles. Why is that?

Raise a man well and one family is built. Raise a woman well and that family is held together from the inside. Both matter. Both are necessary. The blessing of either one was always meant to multiply. 🙏🔥

Back to what I was saying yesterday If God blesses you, your wife and kids are lifted If God blesses your wife, then the burden is less on you. If you raise 1,000 men, there is a chance that 1,000 new families are created. If you raise 1,000 women, then there will be 1,000 more comfortable women. This is the honest to God truth from God Himself.