DEEPLY 👏 & 👏 TRULY 👏 KNOWING 👏 THAT 👏 I 👏 BELONG 👏 IN 👏 THE 👏 WORLD 👏 MAKES 👏 ME 👏 FEEL 👏 SAFE 👏 TO 👏 BE 👏 PUBLICLY 👏 IGNORANT

THIS is what people mean when they say there's a dom shortage ?

new vibecamp event just dopped

FOUR MORE DAYS TO BUY YOUR VIBECAMP TICKET make sure you've submitted your badge picture or name, every year we get people mad that they didn't get a cute personalized badge

it took almost two years but the horsemen are finally finished, photographed, and posted on the website. everyone say Good Job ER!S

i bet Mars isn't even gonna be in a ghost costume, she just wants to party with ghosts

Normally I try to focus my energy on what I want to see more of, but as time goes on, it seems like this is part of a larger pattern of hostile engagement from Ivy. In the past, I’ve defended Ivy from unwarranted criticism and assumptions about her being bad faith and a liar. I always try to assume the best of people when it comes to public speech. But this is the 4th piece she’s published purely devoted to attacking Vibecamp and the tangential communities, and I feel like someone needs to publicly say that this isn’t ok and actually address the points made. Her article, point by point, with rebuttals: The bad things RMN has done: -one stealthing incident. This, according to the women it happened to, was handled as well as it could have been, including community support, a change in policies, a ban, and an offering of legal support. What exactly is Ivy suggesting they should have done differently? It’s a bad faith argument, and one that rests on the implication that they handled it poorly, which backfired once the people actually affected spoke up. -One incident of someone being dropped and getting a concussion. I don’t understand what the implication is here. If anyone falls down you’re a bad community? Did RMN not have the proper wet floor signs? Just a sloppy broad brush stroke that falls apart when you look at it closely. -Sonia Josephs tweet. I don’t want to get into this too much, as it’s not really central to Ivy’s case, and there’s a lot I don’t know about Silicon Valley culture and politics. It hints at much, but as far as I can tell the main thrust that’s spelled out is that participating in CNC events furthers your career, and that that’s misogynistic. This might be true, but either way, it doesn’t say anything about the goodness or badness of these events. There’s a lot of good-to-neutral things that it would suck to be pressured/obligated into, like vanilla sex or reading old books. Not to mention business is built on relationships, and if you don’t like how some people form those relationships, there’s not much anyone can really do. -AI people are into CNC. Which again, is only bad if CNC is bad, or if this particular CNC party is bad, which Ivy makes a poor case for. The VC2 decompression event: -Ivy was sexually assaulted at VC1 and rejected unwanted advances/drugs at VC2. Sexual assault is bad. I don’t know how Vibecamp handled this, as they don’t make those things public, but I remember everybody who was there listened to Ivy and attempted to hold space for her as she recounted this, and suggested policy changes that could prevent this sort of thing from happening in the future. I think the moment that soured it all for Ivy is when someone pointed out some flaws in the proposed policy changes. -Ivy is upset that someone repeated her story without naming her. Strange, considering she did the same thing to someone who spoke up at that event. She said she was “interrupted, and talked over” while failing to mention that her interrupter had tears in her eyes, explicitly saying that the interruption was part of a larger problem of silencing women. Looks like that blogpost and tweet have been deleted, so maybe Ivy’s changed her mind on this policy. But surely, if you’re going to have made the mistake of following chatham house rules, you can understand why someone in the exact same point in time and space would do the same? Quoting without revealing the name isn’t going against any community norm. I was there, you didn’t ask anyone not to do that. And frankly, based on my QT it seems like you named her in your article, although I can’t double check that because it’s deleted, and I don’t remember. -Eneaz wrote trauma junkie. At the time I said it was mean and assumed the worst about people, which is still the case. Frankly though, I could say the same about this article. From the outside, it seems like you two don’t like each other and write public substacks back and forth trying to personally attack each other. I don’t think that’s anyone’s business but you two’s. Furthermore, it’s bad faith to assign the personal vendetta/failings of one person to their group as a whole. It doesn’t make sense when you do it to RMN, and it wouldn’t make sense if I used it to attack whatever groups you’re a part of. The lesswrong Vassar allegations: -Allegedly, Vassar assaulted women, which if true is bad. -“Someone well-placed to assess estimated that 15-20% of the women there are not actually all that into it” I’m skeptical about the ability of a third party to assess the enjoyment of an activity where the point is pretending to not enjoy it. And even if we believe in this ability, I think it’s more important to believe people when they tell you things about themselves, even when it seems like it isn’t true. People have a right to write the stories of their lives, and it’s the job of close friends and family to help co-interpret that for them, not a third party who has to break it down into percentages, and certainly not the people hearing about the estimation thirdhand. But even if we ignore that, and assume this person is right: as I said earlier, the issue with this dynamic isn’t the event itself, it’s the incentives around it. Not that I really think there’s anything you can do about old boy’s clubs, or their alleged kinkier successors. Business is built on relationships, and you can’t really control how people form relationships. Nor do you make any suggestions on how to fix this problem, aside from everyone agreeing on how bad it is. -Susan Folwer’s blog, which as far as I can tell, has nothing to do with RMN or anybody involved, aside from being located in Silicon Valley. It’s possible that it is, and Ivy just failed to mention it. To me, it just looks like Hasty Generalizations. -“Both Vibecamp and Red Means No have played the ‘we’re just event hosts’ card when difficult situations arise.” is a line that seems like an actual serious concern. Or it would be, if all those stories of RMN taking a lot of responsibility and putting a lot of effort into sexual assault hadn’t come out. Sadly, what seems like it would be the actual meat and potatoes of the article ends there, already half disproved at least. -Claims of other women with complaints and fears about this topic. I’m sure they exist, but what are we supposed to do with it if you won’t even tell us what the complaints are? Ivy attempts to paint us a picture with disproved details, distantly related blogposts, and flawed reasoning. It seems like she sees herself as a whistleblower, minus the documents or insider knowledge. Now, if this was just a bad blogpost I would keep on scrolling, but to me, this seems like a repeated pattern of attack against Vibecamp and RMN. She doesn’t seem to care about the quality of her article at all, only who she can target with it. I don’t like the idea of having someone hovering the edges of the community, searching for anything she can emotionally misinterpret into ammunition for a 4th attack piece, each of which re-uses the few pieces of actual information she’s acquired from its predecessors. Not that there’s anything I or anyone can really do about it. She certainly doesn’t seem interested in coming to any community events, and even if she were, I’m not sure that advocating for her to be banned is the right thing to do. She would probably enjoy being banned, so she can say “I was sexually assaulted and spoke out…and then I was banned.” I don’t like getting into drama, but I wrote all this because I don’t think this is going away. I think the record needs to be straightened out. There’s enough evidence to call a spade a spade: Ivy’s agenda is “tpot delenda est,” facts of the matter be damned. You may disagree and that’s fine; people can make up their own minds after hearing both cases. And my case is that Ivy writes bad-faith articles to attack communities she hates for bad reasons, and no one needs to take that seriously.

taking MDMA, getting naked, and looking at myself in the mirror

If you haven't been to Vibecamp yet, I strongly recommend you go this year. It's a really cool place. I love vc because the people that go are wacky and diverse, but a lot of them are basically my ideal people - rationalists who know how to party. My biggest frustration with rat spaces are that everyone is so serious all the time and they don't know how to just let loose and have a good time. That is not a problem at vc. Vibecamp is where I can do my Summer Solstice celebration that take the template from rat Winter Solstice, but pumps it full of positivity and happiness. It's where I can host karaoke with nothing more than a smartphone. This year there will also be a petting zoo, a talk on alternative government structures, and a human conveyor belt race all in the span of 3 hours. It's also a place where I can take my 6yo daughter and let her run wild. They have a special cabin for parents and children. It's a high-trust environment where I'm confident she'll be fine and I don't have to keep two eyes on her at all times. And on Friday and Saturday night, they hire an actual babysitter to watch all the kids to the parents can go party. It's one of the most parent-friendly events I've ever attended. There are still plenty of tickets left for this year, so if any of that sounds interesting to you, I heavily recommend getting one.

tbc guys, the ranko feature on glosso is something u have to actively opt into. You can just choose not to play. a big % of ppl are like 'nah' and never even see the feature, never get ranked. it's only there if you actively decide to stick your hand in the fire

what do you predict will happen when you do this

still banging at the plot of Unsong The Musical. After @bashu_thanks' vibecamp pilot we pulled back from the songwriting. We know we can write songs. What we didn't know is whether UNSONG can fit in a story that'll work onstage by now i think it can. what's less clear is HOW