According to psychology, being the "THERAPIST FRIEND" who fixes everyone else's life is a subconscious strategy to avoid being vulnerable. If your friendships are entirely one-sided where you absorb everyone else's crises but never share your own pain you aren't being selfless; you are hiding. You control the relationship dynamic by remaining the strong, invulnerable fixer, ensuring that no one ever gets close enough to see your own mess or reject your true, uncurated self.
Hit me with the harshest reality truth.