Let me tell you something that hurts, but that sets you free. Yea I know, I'm a harbinger of bad teas, but if i don't spill it, who will?
Not everyone who is part of your story is in your corner.
There are people who have been with you since the beginning, but can't stand to see you grow. They applaud when you're small, but get uncomfortable when you start to rise. And this is confusing, because we believe that time together means loyalty, means friendship, but it doesn't.
There are people who know your story, but don't want to see your next chapter. They smile on the outside, but inside they're hoping you don't go too far. Not because they hate you, but because your growth confronts their own limitations.
And psychology explains this well. It's hard to accept. It hurts to realize that not everyone who saw you start will celebrate when you arrive.
But maturing is understanding one simple thing. Presence is not support.
There are people close to you who are not with you.
And here's the important part. You don't need to fight. You don't need to confront anyone.
You don't need to make a scene. You just need to see it, become aware of it, and little by little, adjust who you let in. Not everyone deserves access to your process.
Not everyone needs to know your plans. Not everyone should be backstage in your life, because some people aren't rooting for you. They're just watching, and sometimes waiting for you to give up so they can celebrate privately.
So hold on to this. Value the people who genuinely celebrate your wins without competing, who are truly happy when you evolve, because those people are few and rare.
As for the others, don't carry resentment. Carry awareness. Not everyone who is part of your story deserves to be part of your future.
If this makes sense - which I'm sure it does, share it, and someone out there might need it.
All of us are going to go through this at some point. If you're not already going through it, maybe you already have. You're going to get fed up with the environment you're in, tired of the people around you, tired of the situation you're living.
You're going to reach a point where you're done with your current situation and you'll end up alone, solitary, because you'll realize that the place you want to go, the person you want to become, doesn't align with the people and environment you're in today. And because of this, unconsciously, you'll tend to stop going to those places, stop hanging out with those people.
In fact, many people reading this noticed that some friends or colleagues slowly drifting away without any obvious reason.
Actually, it's because of this. People made big decisions in their lives and saw that it no longer makes sense for them to be in that environment they were in. So many times they choose to be alone rather than stay in places that no longer align with them.
I'd say this phase is an awakening phase. It's a phase where we're more reflective, seeking new environments and new people to be part of our lives. People who make sense and align with the person we want to become and the places we want to go.
It's crazy, right? But I'm sure many people have been through this, are going through it, or will go through it.