12 year old Meera had a bad feeling about what was in store for her. After all, she'd seen the photo albums her friends had.
Today's #DeepDive is a personal recollection of #ComingOfAge ceremonies, an example of the stark divide between Agency and Age: bit.ly/theceremony-deepdives
ALT "On a December morning in 1998, when I came home for the holidays from boarding school, my mother told me there would be a small ceremony." An illustration of two women wearing purple clothes and long braids sitting against each other.
ALT It's a wrap! With 11 authors and 9 stories, we explored the long-standing question: Agency or Age? now live on Deep Dives
ALT Ask: Who brought 'Age of Consent' into courts of law for the very first time? What is it like navigating life in UP as a 22 year old queer woman? Is 'Age' a really a biologically determinable fact of everyday life?
ALT Discover: Challenges faced by young interfaith couples, Two sides of a sports story, Dream diaries of Teenage Girls
ALT Remember: Tamil songs for the best love advice, The story of a young wife back from the dead, ceremonies, rage and redemption
As we bring our series on #AgencyOrAge to a close, revisit this brilliant story of convergences and conflicts as two sports girls from vastly different backgrounds meet on the track: bit.ly/3INHwz1
Written by @MeenakshiShedde
Illustrated by @debasmita_d
ALT Illustration of two girls sitting and talking to each other with the title "Life Begins On Thursday by Meenakshi Shedde and Debasmita Dasgupta"
How does Meera seize this chance to reclaim agency over her own life? Read her story now: bit.ly/theceremony-deepdives#AgencyOrAge?
Illustration by Galiyara (@/galiyara_art on Instagram)
ALT “See?” Dan said, turning to me. “I told you no one cared.”
“That’s not true.” I replied, “I did.”
ALT I met my husband, Dan, and we decided to plan our wedding without help from our families. I was terrified that on my wedding day, I’d become small and invisible again.
ALT Indian cultures aren't the only ones with ceremonious coming-of-age traditions...
ALT Sunrise Ceremony
(location pin) Arizona
To mark their first menstruation, girls prevent touching their skin or washing themselves and follow certain other rules to "obtain femine power".
ALT Bullet Ant Initiation
(location pin) Brazilian Amazon
To initiate 13 year old boys into manhood, they are made to wear gloves filled with angry ants and endure the sharp biting for 10 minutes.
ALT The Land Divers
(location pin) Vanuatu Islands
As early as ages 7-8, boys jump off of a tall tower with a non-elastic vine tied to their ankles. The taller the tower, the manlier they are considered.
ALT "All I knew was that the ceremony meant to celebrate that I’d become a woman...But I was twelve years old and angry and ashamed. I didn’t feel like celebrating anything"
12 year old Meera had a bad feeling about what was in store for her. After all, she'd seen the photo albums her friends had.
Today's #DeepDive is a personal recollection of #ComingOfAge ceremonies, an example of the stark divide between Agency and Age: bit.ly/theceremony-deepdives
ALT "On a December morning in 1998, when I came home for the holidays from boarding school, my mother told me there would be a small ceremony." An illustration of two women wearing purple clothes and long braids sitting against each other.
Now up for your listening pleasure: The Putting Kadalai Playlist!
A compilation of #Tamil love songs, curated by Rajesh on his quest to conquer #love as a 16 year old boy.
Read his story, accompanied by the playlist that taught him the ABCs of romance: bit.ly/tamilsongsheartspecia…
It is one thing to learn about love man-to-man. In 1998 Thamarai changes the game, opening the gates of the #Tamil film industry to a whole crew of female lyricists. Little does teenage Rajesh know what new knowledge is in store.
Read more: bit.ly/tamilsongsheartspecia…#AgencyOrAge?
ALT “Some critics accuse male lyricists for overtly sexualising the romantic songs. But I only felt glad that they did. These songs helped articulate desires. Female lyricists offered a new perspective in understanding not only female desire but also male vulnerability"
A still from the Tamil movie Alaipayuthey: a woman and a man are embracing each other and looking blissfully in opposite directions. The man is caressing the woman's saree.
"Just make sure you don't get carried away and start texting your exes." - Rajesh Rajamani, Author on Deep Dives #AgencyOrAge?
Explore the earnest, intense, and simultaneously silly feeling of seeking love for the very first time: bit.ly/tamilsongsheartspecia…
Moving from email to phone calls in the days of landlines and eavesdropping families is no easy task. Especially when there are budgetary and bravery restrictions too! What advice do Reema Sen and Thamarai have for Rajesh?
Find out here: bit.ly/tamilsongsheartspecia…#AgencyOrAge?
ALT “Our conversations became increasingly flirtatious. I wasn’t sure if I was overdoing it. So one day, I clarified to her that I only intended to be friends and not to flirt. She agreed that she also felt the same way. And after that quick agreement, we continued to flirt outrageously.”
The poster of the Tamil film, Telephone Manipol (1996) of a man holding a white landline up to his ear and smiling, there's a woman behind him holding her face and smiling into the distance.
Recovering from #heartbreak over his busstop #romance, Rajesh now finds love a little closer to home. Guided by the words of Revathi in Mouna Raagam, Rajesh learns that this spark just needs a little கிண்டல்-ing.
Read on: bit.ly/tamilsongsheartspecia…
ALT "It might strike you as very roundabout - writing emails to someone who was literally in your own class and who took the same college bus. But shy people have their struggles, so kindly let them do what they can." A still from the Tamil movie "3" - Dhanush is looking up with a shy smile on his face, with Shruti Haasan sitting behind him, looking down and blushing. He's wearing a blue and white checked shirt, she is wearing her hair in braids and is dressed in a maroon clothes that resemble a school uniform.
Opinion | It is amusing how Tamil songs often describe the feeling of love. Not as an emotional or mental state but as a purely physiological change in the human body, writes Rajesh Rajamani for @deep_divesmedium.com/deep-dives/i-was-…