I have a different take and parents will hate it BUT here goes.
Living at home comes with responsibility. Chores are part of communal living, respect, and contribution. However, authority doesn’t cancel out kindness.
The problem was never doing chores.
The problem is how power is exercised.
There’s a massive difference between:
“Please wash the dishes before you sleep” and “You’re lazy. You never do anything. Go do the dishes now.”
One is parenting.
The other is control wrapped in disrespect.
Parents don’t struggle with assigning chores, but they struggle with basic emotional regulation and kindness toward their own children. Commands are easier than conversation. Insults are easier than patience. Fear is easier than mutual respect.
Dawg just wash the dishes 🤷🏾♂️
You can’t do whatever you want if you still live under your parent’s roof.