People often ask me, "What behavior program do you like best?"
My answer usually surprises them:
I don't have one.
No single program has all the answers. Every child is different. Every situation is different.
The best educators, counselors, and school teams don't rely on one tool. They build a toolbox.
Let's take a student who is not completing work in class.
Some schools immediately jump to consequences, missing recess, calls home, detentions, or office referrals.
But if we use multiple lenses, we may see a very different picture:
Maslow Before Bloom
Ask: Is the student hungry, tired, stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, or distracted by something outside of school?
Try saying: "Before we talk about the assignment, I want to check on you. Is there something making today harder than usual?"
Trauma-Informed
Ask: Is the work triggering fear, embarrassment, shutdown, or a feeling of failure?
Try saying: "I'm not upset. I want to understand what is getting in the way right now."
Love and Logic
Lead with empathy, then offer choices.
Try saying: "This looks frustrating. Would you rather start with the first three problems together or take two minutes to organize your thoughts and then begin?"
7 Habits
Help the student be proactive and break the task into a next step.
Try saying: "What's one small thing you can do right now to move forward?"
Restorative Practices
Reconnect the student to the classroom, the teacher, and the purpose of the work.
Try saying: "How can we get you back on track in a way that works for you and still respects the learning time of the class?"
Boys Town Social Skills
Teach the missing skill directly.
Try saying: "Let's practice what to do when work feels too hard. Step one: pause. Step two: raise your hand or use your help card. Step three: ask, 'Can you help me get started?'"
The behavior is the same:
The student isn't doing the work.
But the possible causes are very different:
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Trauma
• Fear of failure
• Missing academic skills
• Missing executive functioning skills
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Lack of connection
• Low confidence
• Not knowing how to ask for help
If we only focus on the behavior, we may never solve the problem.
If we understand the cause, we have a chance to help the student succeed.
That's why I've never been a "one program" person.
The best educators I know don't carry a hammer and treat every problem like a nail.
They carry a toolbox and choose the right tool for the student in front of them.
What tools or frameworks have been most helpful for you?
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