10 Ways to Help a Child or Teen Heal From Trauma
From a therapist and former school principal
Trauma changes the brain and body. When kids feel unsafe, their survival brain takes over and learning, reasoning, and emotional control get harder. The good news is the brain can heal. Here is where to start:
1.Safety first
Calm voice. Predictable routines. Help them feel safe before anything else.
2.Connection before correction
Relationship first. Behavior second. “I am here with you” goes a long way.
3.Co regulation
Your calm helps their brain calm. Slow down your voice and breathing.
4.Predictability
Consistent routines reduce anxiety and help the brain relax.
5.Give back control
Offer small choices to rebuild a sense of power and safety.
6.Name the feeling
“I wonder if you are feeling scared or frustrated.” This helps the thinking brain come back online.
7.Focus on strengths
Catch small wins. Build confidence and resilience one moment at a time.
8.Movement and sensory support
Walk, stretch, squeeze a fidget, use cold water. The body helps calm the brain.
9.Be consistent not perfect
Healing happens through repeated safe moments, not one perfect response.
10.Hold hope
They may not believe in themselves yet. Borrow your belief until they can.
Healing is possible. Brains can rewire. It often starts with one safe adult and one small moment repeated over time.
Dr. Bryan Pearlman
Author of Maslow Before Bloom and 10 other books
BryanPearlman.com
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