When it comes to accessing and developing the qualities within that open the pathways of sexual alchemy and magic, NUMBNESS must be addressed first. This is a non-negotiable in accessing all that you are!
Numbness can occur as a reflexive, protective mechanism. It happens in all genders. Trauma and wounding whether yours, that of your lineages, or a combination therein, are a major reason for this happening.
However, so are death grip & excessive use of powerful vibrators & other accessories that human touch can't mimic. Death grip & mechanized, powerful "toys" being required to orgasm is a sign that wounding and trapped emotions are present and must be addressed in order to return flow, life force access, and creation.
However, while I'm not a man, and reports from men vary, what I can view energetically is that abstaining for all people for an excess time (4 to 6 weeks may be fine, & might help men "reserve" some life force if they've been dealing with chronic illness, excess fatigue etc) is detrimental to energy flow and can cause congestion & energetic blockages.
Women need to orgasm and have the capacity to roll in orgasmic life force energy for extended time. Men need to learn the art of energetic orgasm so they can join in these profoundly transformative experiences for longer.
Strategies for addressing numbness may vary depending upon your unique situation, circumstances, and needs. This is depth work. This is transformation. This is part of Way Making. When you're ready, I promise you that you're so worth this work.
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