How to stop being afraid, make phobias (like fear of people) and worries go away, become boring?
People of any color, gender or group are just people.
Every person is a person
Same way you don’t consider each white male a clone of all other white males, it makes no sense to consider a person as a group:
Each person is an individual
Each person is a history of choices (mostly the “choices” forced on them, not chosen by them: the color, the gender is one of those).
Each person is a list of thoughts with about 10 core ones that color everything they do or feel. Like a constitution, like a system prompt or like the lines of “HumanScript ” code.
Judging people by the color of their skin is like judging computers by the color of their packaging - gives you zero information, except prejudice and bias that you are often 100% certain about for some reason (that reason is usually unneeded rushing caused by worry or fear).
Prejudice against people of color, women, etc is just a phobia like any others - like being afraid of heights or elevators - the best anti-phobia therapy according to meta analyses is exposure therapy -
First look at photos of people of color or women if you’re afraid of women, etc, when you’ll stop being afraid of those photos, they’ll become boring, go look at them from a distance for 5 minutes without running away (it’s important to do it slow, if you run away you’ll have to start from scratch), ultimately shake hands or even find a friend of color/woman/etc and your phobia will go away, it’ll become boring, you can even forget you were ever afraid.
(Some children are afraid of everything, especially if the child never plays outside - no exposure)
Of course people of any color, gender or group can be bad - there are about 1% of people in any group who are not very kind, the same with white people - about 1% are not very kind - someone with phobia can imagine that every white person - 100% of us - is a Hitler but it’s ridiculous.
Most people - 50% - in any group are good, if you think otherwise it’s a classic symptom of anxiety (the phobia of the future events that often never happen).
The most important 3 thoughts to not feel depressed are the following: You’re good, most people are good and futures will be or we’ll make futures awesome!
The best book against worries according to meta analyses is Worry Workbook by Beck - it’s enough if the worries are mild, according to Beck, otherwise get a doc, too.
Beck basically created and perfected modern psychology, many people read mere pale secondhand imitations of his original source materials, read from the primary source himself! ;-)
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