Obsession does not fulfill women's urge to hate men or whatever, it's a showcase of how indecisive men will try to take what they think they want, realize they don't want it, be too afraid to do anything about it, and get other people involved while being a coward the entire time
Obsession was extremely popular because it fufills the female notion that every lonely mid guy is secretly a rapist monster and deserves to be miserable and alone.
It would have been a nothing movie if the genders were swapped.
Conversely if the rapist monster had been 6'3, extremely attractive, and a millionare, it would have also been a wild hit with women.