We don't know what anyone else has gone through, or if they're still going through it...
While children are still growing and learning, sometimes they have to learn how to survive in their inescapable environment, so it forces them further into their own mental maze. Over time, isolation might grow considerably, as fear bends and warps their perception of reality. The child has to escape the only way they can; which is further through maze, until it becomes a fortress... built to withstand anything they were unlucky enough to encounter.
The universe is mental.
Have you ever experienced what love feels like through a child's eyes? That can be THE catalyst of the chain reaction leading to introspection, to learn, to grow. No matter how small, progress is still progress...
Still working on growing, still learning about holding boundaries, still working on everything...
If the universe has something magical in mind, it only looks silly to deny those blessings.