the way to stay friends with ppl far away is to just check in with them 1x/year
so low effort and yet so rewarding. so beautiful to witness friends' lives progress through periodic check-ins
and so nice to remind ppl that they are still in your heart
realized how much of my very healthy eating depends on having to put together meals for me *and* my bf
when @yoltartar's away i'm like "protein powder and popcorn is a balanced meal right?"
so many damn bangers in @innerpathing's latest writing AND she made all the gorgeous art herself
but the whole piece is so beautiful and ELECTRIC with LIFE
>As the ancient Taoists said, βCβest la vie.β
re: dating, i think about how many interactions it took for @yoltartar & me to get togetherβ
a week at camp, months of texting, multiple hangouts, a weird platonic? snuggleβ
and it still took being alone in a foreign country together to finally be like "oh yeah, this works huh?"
meanwhile y'all are swiping left on a face in 0.01 seconds & complaining no one's out there
and as we got together the things we found offputting about each other changed--he's not the same gruff overly-self-reliant guy, i'm not the same fake smiley eager-to-please girl
repeated exposures to a person improves likability. this is why workplace romances are so common
maybe instead of agreeing to go on a date you should agree to doing a three-month-long project with them π
my insight in recovering from being a boundaryless people-pleaser is:
i have to honor my own experience *without judging my experience as bad/wrong*
if i'm having a bad time, i'm responsible! i'm the guardian for the sensitive lil creature that i am and have to change something
i have this story that i often feel drained by social interactions, but i'm coming to suspect that it's because i'm not allowing myself to be how i actually am, say what i need to say, and do what i need to do to feel comfortable