Women pursuing men into a successful long term relationship is not how it has worked for anyone I know. If a woman pursues a man, it only works if it's casual, in my experience. Nearly all men want most, if not all, escalations of the relationship to be initiated by him or mostly his idea. If a woman is too aggressive, most men overthink it and assume something is wrong with her.
Poll how many men you like. I guarantee that receiving heavy female pursuit will trigger in him doubts about her selectivity or long-term value. Worse, and many men will not admit it, female aggression will make the dynamic feel less fun or meaningful to them. Men want the "conquest." That is what they value, and it's why women often behave so manipulatively and passive aggressively in relationships when seeking further commitment. Both parties are responding rationally to the male preference to feel like a conqueror and carry forward the relationship on his own terms without pressure.
(On that note, this is why so much of the falling birth/marriage rate discourse, which often places the blame on women, is really stupid.)
my wife stalked me like an oblivious savannah prey for a full year while i dated an unending stream of other women and her friends begged her to wake up and move on, now we're married and i couldn't possibly be more devoted to her. this take is dumb, women have agency. go after what you want, make yourself visible, astral project into his dreams if you have to.