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Additional new bits of advice I wished I had known earlier (not in my book), as my gift on my 73 birthday:
โขย The best way to criticize something is to make something better.
โขย Admitting that โI donโt knowโ at least once a day will make you a better person.
โขย Forget trying to decide what your lifeโs destiny is. Thatโs too grand. Instead, just figure out what you should do in the next 2 years.
โขย Aim to be effective, but unpredictable. That is, you want to act in a way that AIs have trouble modeling or imitating. That makes you irreplaceable.
โขย Whenever you hug someone, be the last to let go.
โขย Donโt save up the good stuff (fancy wine, or china) for that rare occasion that will never happen; instead use them whenever you can.
โขย The best gardening advice: find what you can grow well and grow lots and lots of it.
โขย Never hesitate to invest in yourselfโto pay for a class, a course, a new skill. These modest expenditures pay outsized dividends.
โขย Try to define yourself by what you love and embrace, rather than what you hate and refuse.
โขย Read a lot of history so you can understand how weird the past was; that way you will be comfortable with how weird the future will be.
โขย To make a room luxurious, remove things, rather than add things.
โขย your parents while they are still alive. Keep asking questions while you record. Youโll learn amazing things. Or hire someone to make their story into an oral history, or documentary, or book. This will be a tremendous gift to them and to your family.
โขย If you think someone is normal, you donโt know them very well. Normalcy is a fiction. Your job is to discover their weird genius.
โขย When shopping for anything physical (souvenirs, furniture, books, tools, shoes, equipment), ask yourself: where will this go? Donโt buy it unless there is a place it can live. Something may need to leave in order for something else to come in.
โขย You owe everyone a second chance, but not a third.
โขย When someone texts you they are running late, double the time they give you. If they say theyโll be there in 5, make that 10; if 10, itโll be 20; if 20, count on 40.
โขย Multitasking is a myth. Donโt text while walking, running, biking or driving. Nobody will miss you if you just stop for a minute.
โขย You can become the worldโs best in something primarily by caring more about it than anyone else.
โขย Asking โwhat-if?โ about your past is a waste of time; asking โwhat-if?โ about your future is tremendously productive.
โขย Try to make the kind of art and things that will inspire others to make art and things.
โขย Once a month take a different route home, enter your house by a different door, and sit in a different chair at dinner. No ruts.
โขย Where you liveโwhat city, what countryโhas more impact on your well being than any other factor. Where you live is one of the few things in your life you can choose and change.
โขย Every now and then throw a memorable party. The price will be steep, but long afterwards you will remember the party, whereas you wonโt remember how much is in your checking account.
โขย Most arguments are not really about the argument, so most arguments canโt be won by arguing.
โขย The surest way to be successful is to invent your own definition of success. Shoot your arrows first and then paint a bullโs eye around where they land. Youโre the winner!