The issue isn’t that sex matters in marriage. For most couples, it does.
The issue is what someone does when sex is unavailable.
Cancelling a hotel reservation with your wife because she’s on her period suggests the trip wasn’t really about spending time with her it was about access to sex.
If you only do thoughtful things when you expect sex in return, then affection starts looking transactional.
That’s why some people compare it to “legal prostitution”: not because marriage is only about sex, but because kindness is being exchanged for an expected sexual reward.
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X Feminist: Marriage is a legal prostitution, is marriage only because of sêx?
They immediately translated it to “sêx is the only thing in marriage”, how did we get from Lagos to London that fast?
Nobody said marriage is only about sêx.
But if sëx wasn't important at all, why does the lack of it end so many relationships? 🌚