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People love to say, “Reach out if you’re struggling.” But what happens when someone actually does? What happens when they finally admit they’re hurting and say, “I’m not okay,” only to hear, “That’s too bad, everybody has problems,” or face harsh judgment about what they should have done differently? Do you really think they’ll reach out again? Probably not. They’ll remember how vulnerable they felt, only to be dismissed or criticized. The next time they’re overwhelmed, they’ll stay silent, because experience has taught them that opening up only invites indifference or judgment. Compassion doesn’t mean fixing someone’s life or carrying their problems. Sometimes it’s as simple as saying, “I’m sorry you’re going through this,” and reminding them they’re not alone. A few kind words cost nothing, but making someone regret reaching out can cost far more than most people will ever know. I have certainly had this happen to me with Family and Friends and I am sure many of us have so this is just a reminder quit being judgmental when people have the vulnerability to reach out.

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Show me on a map how that works? The little spec is an empire? Not the giant 50 Islamic countries. That sure makes sense. This is probably why Andor got destroyed, sucking down imperial propaganda until the Force looked like how you feel about Jews

Charlotte’s Brain Tumour Journey 18.2.1997 – 24.2.2016 Diagnosis to death: 951 days Age 19 12 years ago today, Miles, Charlotte and I went for an early evening walk to Brighton Marina. It was a beautiful, long walk on a hot summer’s evening. We had no idea what lay ahead. Just 629 days later, Charlotte would die from her brain tumour, and Miles would become an only child. Looking back at photographs from that evening, it is impossible not to wonder how life can change so completely in such a short space of time. A simple family walk. An ordinary summer evening. The kind of moment you never realise will one day become so precious. charlottesbag.org/

On this D-Day, we honor the Allied warriors American men and women among them—who stormed Normandy in 1944. Thousands died to liberate Europe and save England from tyranny. The bitter irony? Those same nations are now flooded with invaders stabbing, raping, and terrorizing their citizens. Keir Starmer is no Winston Churchill. Instead, European and United Kingdom leaders push “diversity” while the culture our Greatest Generation saved crumbles. Remember why they died.

Good news out of Arkansas. Aaron Spencer, the man who saved his daughter from rapist who took her from her bedroom when he found the man with his daughter on the highway shot and shot him has had his murder charges dismissed. Story in the first comment.

Every donation is doubled thanks to @Intuit My school colleague from and his wife have been sharing daily updates throughout their journey. If your able to support them I would be so grateful. As always 100% of your donation goes to Charlotte's LAB, King's College Hospital, London With thanks gofundme.com/f/walking-the-c…

Star Wars is 49 today One of the biggest gripes with George Lucas tinkering with the original trilogy: removing Han shooting first, an action that instantly defines him as the scoundrel we love I tracked down the original cut, and here it is. Balance restored. Thanks, George.

🚨 BOOM! NOW: THOUSANDS of fired-up Christians have FLOODED the National Mall in Washington DC to REDEDICATE AMERICA TO FAITH! 🙏 Believers from all across the country are uniting in the heart of our nation to declare: We are ONE NATION UNDER GOD, and we’re taking it back!

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." Unite The Kingdom 🇬🇧

Halyna Hutchins was beautiful. Alec Baldwin is why she is no longer with us.

Holy sh*t… This isn't the march, this is people heading to the gathering point of the march. This is unprecedented.

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open.substack.com/pub/abukof… "I don't know," Columbo said. "It's wood, but it isn't wood. It's alive but it isn't." He was sitting at a conference table with Admiral Drexler examining the mysterious fragment of metamorphic wood that had been retrieved following a Klingon attack on an unarmed Andorian ship. "There's only so much you can say about it without some digging." "And that won't happen until the council reconvenes in three weeks," Drexler added. He hesitated. These moments, rare as they were, were as difficult and dangerous as any first contact attempt. "I might have a way to expedite the process. I have-", he paused again, choosing his words carefully, "friends in high places." Columbo put the fragment down and smiled. "I thought you might."

After losing a child, you are faced with arranging a funeral. Grief is at its rawest, gnawing away at every part of you. I sat in the waiting room, waiting for the funeral director to greet us. They talked about your loss and gave us a tour of the caskets. Things no parent should choose. I sat there, clutching Charlotte’s last Chanel powder compact - unopened, of course. I also held onto Miles’s childhood teddy, Marmalade. Miles had given it to Charlotte in hospital. Miles said later that when he saw us come down the garden path without Charlotte, but with Marmalade, it broke him. I also sat in the funeral directors with a small plush hedgehog, a present from our school matron, Ruth, to Charlotte. She had given it to Charlotte on her first day of Year 7 because she knew how anxious she was. Lastly, I held her Minnie Mouse stocking - a Christmas present from her grandparents for her first Christmas. The photo was taken on 3.5.2013, Charlotte's last day in Year 11. 76 days later she was diagnosed with a brain tumour. I had to choose an outfit, not a wedding dress. Rather, clothes for my daughter to be cremated in, along with shoes. I looked through the brochures containing all the caskets with tears pouring down my face, hardly able to turn the pages. I could have chosen pink or any colour I wanted, but Charlotte had always lived by the words “less is more.” I chose a simple wicker casket, and I knew she would have approved. I drove a short distance down the road to the flower shop the funeral parlour had recommended. I wished I had been choosing a wedding bouquet with Charlotte instead. Again, I kept everything simple: three lilies laid on top, with small white posies placed around the handles of the casket. Every minute of the day of the funeral, I wanted to run far away and pretend none of it was happening. But there is nowhere to run from grief, especially when it has wrapped itself around your entire life. Charlotte died on 24.2.2016. Then, only weeks later, my aunt passed away on  24.3.2016. On Tuesday 29.3.2016, I lost my mother too. The world did not stop to let me breathe between losses; it simply kept taking. Recently, I came across Charlotte’s birth and death certificates. To see those two documents placed side by side felt almost impossible to comprehend. One piece of paper marking the beginning of a life filled with hope, love, laughter, and memories; the other reducing an entire lifetime to a date, a time, and a signature. It is one of the most surreal feelings in the world holding proof that someone existed, and proof that they are gone, all within the space of two pieces of paper. Grief changes the way you look at ordinary things. Paperwork becomes sacred. Handwriting becomes precious. A name printed in black ink suddenly carries the weight of an entire lifetime. And sometimes the smallest things, a certificate, a compact powder, a teddy, a little hedgehog, hold more love than words could ever explain. Charlotte’s BAG has raised £385,000 directly funding research at Charlotte’s Lab, King’s College Hospital, London The big difference with Charlotte's BAG is simple: we self-fund everything. No merchandise No salaries No overheads No advertising We even cover the PayPal and PO Box fees personally so nothing is taken from the charity account. If you want to donate to a brain tumour charity please think of us and pop a pound in Charlotte's Bag. charlottesbag.org/ Please RT Thank you

Time Traveler One: 2028 is when time travel is revealed and open to the public. Me: Wait til you see the 2072 crash when that reveal is retroactively cancelled. So yeah enjoy while you can 😉 Time Traveler Two: I'm enjoying myself as long as I can do what the 2027 crash? Me: 2072.... and sorry, I signed a non-disclosure agreement to avoid prosecution. So you’ll just have to see for yourself 😎 Time Traveler Two: You did not have to sign it, it's about the lives of the people that paid you for it or you are fighting for your life bad Me: you weren’t there. Trust me, it all adds up. And really, I was just drinking a cup of coffee, reading the news. Wrong place, wrong time. If you want to be ready for the crash, stock up on physical PAPER diaries. And document everything. That’s all I can say. Time Traveler Two: I do not want to die because of a crash one's mistake Me: well, let’s try this. Anything digitally recorded can be changed from anywhere, any time. Paper and pencil are a little harder to get to. And the crash isn’t a dying event. That’s not a worry. Most of my friends just remember a hangover. Me: And I do mean pencil, not pen. Ink goes digital around 2048.

Brain cancer. 18.2.1997 – 24.2.2016 Diagnosis to death: 951 days Age 19 years 5 days If you are thinking of donating to a brain tumour charity please pop a pound in Charlotte's BAG We are a self funding charity No salaries No overheads No advertising  No merchandise We even cover the PayPal and PO Box fees personally so nothing is taken from the charity account. charlottesbag.org/ kch.nhs.uk/news/kings-neuros…