For the majority of the population, equality leads to the collapse of polarity so they cannot have equality in the mutually respectful, mutually loving, co-architecting sense. The mere concept or notion of this is simple myth, nonsense and delusion to them, because the attempted practice of it without the clear delineation of roles in a concrete way almost always results in failure.
So they cannot know equality, and it is not even desirable in the form they conceive of it, because for them equality is androgyny: there is no specialisation, mutual respect, or erotic tension - just the eradication of structure and desire, until all that remains is confusion and sterile pragmatism.
Amongst the masses, the masculine is stigmatised in the man unless it is in direct, opportunistically useful service to the feminine, and the feminine is stigmatised in the woman if it is in service to rather than defiant of the masculine, until both are thoroughly detestable and unrespectable and you get a combative, inelegant, shrill of a woman, and a timid, pathetic, quibbler of a man.
So the concept of equality here is inherently unworkable, because it is in a corrupted form that collapses polarity. Polarity is the preservation of inherent sex based traits, and the recognition they even exist. So for example, to claim emotion is not more primarily feminine than masculine because men possess emotions just like women do for instance, is to ignore the intrinsic tendency, difference in neurotic stability and preferential bias towards a particular orientation at the category level.
The elevated version of equality then is not androgyny, but the integration of opposites, it is where the man is more of a man precisely because he is not a one dimensional brute flexing his dominance to signal how potent, strong and better than you he is, and the woman isn't an impotent, anxiety riddled flower prone to bawling like a baby at the first sign of stress - because both are *more than just their inherent propensities*.
The woman possesses real grit and steel without being less of a woman for it, and the man possesses real warmth and tenderness without being less of a man for it.
The man possesses feminine traits without losing his masculinity - which allows him to be paternal, and the woman possesses masculine traits without losing her feminine, which allows her to be maternal.
An unintegrated woman (which let's be honest, is the majority) would say a man crying is disgusting, or if they would not outright admit disgusting, at the very least worrying or unattractive in a way that makes her feel less drawn to him. And the reason for this is simple: she views his human weakness as the collapse of polarity, as the one she relies on crumbling in front of her "and unable to handle her", so begins to reject him the moment he does not inhabit the performative role of "perfectly hypermasculine and invincible yet emotionally available never complaining or crying man" which let's be honest, borders on caricature in how it denies a man his core basic humanity as a being capable of romance, suffering, and deep sorrow. It's to say "don't be capable of that" or "if you're going to do that, make sure it isn't around me" - and how can you claim to fucking love a person if you are going to deny the fragilest parts of them?
An integrated woman on the other hand would view his tears as the expression of beauty from a pure soul, and maternally seek to cradle him without viewing him as lesser. It is not that she is enabling weakness or wants him to be pathetic or will just tolerate him forever being a ridiculous bumbling mess, but she is simply not so dehumanising or punitive - she views him as more than just a set of roles: protector/provider etc who must always meet her expectations and never flounder or fail, but as a struggling soul she cares for and wishes to nourish.
This is true love, and most of you are alien to it. Which is why when you see posts like this, you want to say "that's bullshit" and "he doesn't know what he's on about" - because if you haven't experienced it, then surely it is impossible and cannot be true, right? There couldn't possibly be things beyond your experience in this existence, right? Your personal experiences have the final say on what is and what isn't true, right? Your ignorance is not authority, but the extent of your limitation. In short: you are wrong.
You see, most men and women actually never spiritually grow up, because they do not become beautifully coherent paradoxes. They do not integrate their opposite as the secondary function that augments the potency and magnetism of their primary essence. They insist on the maximisation of their base nature to the dismissal and even mockery of the secondary, and they are lesser, uglier people and lovers for it.
Equality through mutual supremacy with sustained polarity is a relational model only outliers can inhabit. It is not the feminisation of man nor the masculinisation of woman, because it is not ignoring or diminishing their base natures, but potentiating them by elevating them from their childish to parental functions through the integration of the opposite into the self, to become more beautiful, more powerful, and more radiant.