High-agency people seem to have this weird immunity to embarrassment.
Getting rejected? Not embarrassing, that’s just data collection.
Looking naive? Not embarrassing, that’s just information asymmetry you’re fixing.
Breaking minor social rules? Not embarrassing, most rules are just Schelling points anyway.
What would be embarrassing to them is not trying. That’s the thing they can’t live with.
High-agency people genuinely believe that reality is negotiable in a "there are always more levers to pull" way. It's about having this bone-deep conviction that if you keep poking at something from different angles, eventually something will give.