If you are pathetic as a man, you are better off not getting married. Your marriage will be shit. You will not be revered. You will be in some practical arrangement with a woman who doesn't admire you using you for her own (usually financial, and reputational) reasons. Contempt will be normalised.
The more dignified routes for you are to improve yourself until you cease to be pathetic, or to keep being pathetic, but not to marry.
Of course, there is never really any dignity in being a pathetic man, but, being pathetic and married is even less dignified than being pathetic and unmarried, because a pathetic man that's married is going to spend his life berated by a contemptuous woman who despises him. It is a worsening of an already very bad situation.
You know those couples, where you observe them, and rather than envy what they have you think "thank fucking God that isn't my life" - this is what makes people think they aren't missing out, and appreciate the peace they have being alone. It actually takes skill to be married. I don't think the average person has what it takes to be married. Entire cultures need 55 different people to meddle in the social mechanics of their marriage, because the actual people involved aren't strong or functional enough to manage their own affairs. It is not for the faint of heart.
In fact, whether you are a man or woman, marriage, in reality, is really only for the strong. If you are a pathetic person, you are going to be a shit spouse. I go harder on men because it is our place to lead, but it applies to women too. Weak women make for terrible, unreliable wives too.