Making great sacrifices to live near your parents is often an extremely risky game that is unlikely to pay off. I've seen people go to great lengths to do this, only to watch their parents die soon after. Family drifts apart, nothing's how you pictured it, a falling out happens with the aunts and uncles, your cousin's kids won't grow up with yours because they're afraid of Covid or whatever. Often by the time this happens, you're neck-deep in life stuff that makes the idea of moving seem dreadful. So you languish there. Though many make the default assumption that it's a nice, romantic, wholesome thing to move near family, it's often enough a *profoundly* disillusioning experience. This is not always the case, but it's frequent enough that it's wise to acknowledge the risk. For many, the best option may really be to be "the family who comes to visit on Christmas from far away" and nothing more.