A couple who survived being shot at their Grand Blanc
@Ch_JesusChrist meetinghouse in September tried to enjoy a
@BYUfootball game this weekend, just a few hours from home, when their sense of security slipped away again as parts of the crowd chanted, âF- the Mormons.â
On Facebook, Brandi Hicken wrote that she and her husband, Jared, âgot to sneak away this weekend for a much-needed date nightâ at the BYUâCincinnati game. She said they hoped for a night where âthe attack is not at the forefront of our minds for once.â
Instead, the trip became an emotional reminder of the hate that took the lives of four members of their congregation two months ago.
Last month, the FBI said the attack on the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints meetinghouse in Grand Blanc was motivated by âanti-religious beliefsâ toward the faith. The gunman, Thomas Jacob Sanford, 40, rammed his truck into the building during Sunday services, opened fire and set parts of the church on fire. He was killed by responding law enforcement.
Jared and Brandi Hicken were among the survivors. Jared, a native of Roosevelt, Utah, and a fourth-year chief emergency medicine resident and BYU grad, helped other victims after being shot in the leg. Their 5-year-old daughter, Piper, was also hit, and Brandi suffered shrapnel wounds as she carried their two youngest children to safety.
âJared took a bullet to the leg. My 5-year-old took one right in the middle of her back,â she wrote shortly after the shooting. Doctors later determined Piperâs wound was more superficial than they first feared, likely caused when a bullet ricocheted before hitting her. Brandi said she didnât realize she had been hurt until the adrenaline wore off and she saw blood on her dress.
Now physically recovered, the couple drove to the BYUâCincinnati game hoping for a break from the anxiety that has followed them for two months. Brandi said the chants from portions of the Cincinnati crowd left her shaken.
On Monday, Cincinnati athletic director John Cunningham issued a public apology to BYU and to members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. âThe use of offensive or religiously derogatory language by a group of fans during Saturdayâs game was unacceptable and does not reflect our values,â Cunningham posted to X. âWe remain committed to creating an environment at Nippert Stadium where every visiting team and its supporters are treated with dignity and respect.â
Brandi shared the letter she sent to Cunningham describing how the chant affected her as a survivor of a religiously motivated attack.
The full letter:
âDear Mr. Cunningham,
I am writing to you from my heart as a disheartened college football fan. More specifically, as a BYU football fan and member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints commonly know as âthe Mormons.â
As a BYU alumni and huge fans of college football, my husband and I took the opportunity to travel 4.5 hours from our little city in Grand Blanc, Michigan to come spectate and enjoy our favorite pass time at the BYU vs. Cincinnati football game at Nippert Stadium last night.
I want to provide a little bit of background for you in order to portray the strength and courage it took for us to travel to this event and really try to enjoy ourselves.
You see, just eight short weeks ago, while attending church, we were attacked at our place of worship simply for being âMormon.â
Someone with hatred in their heart rammed their truck into the front of our church building, entered the chapel, and began shooting us and setting our church on fire while many people were still hiding inside. As my family (me, my husband, and our three young children), ran for our lives, my husband and my 5-year-old daughter were both shot. I was also running with my 15 month old baby and my 3 year old in my arms as I was struck in my back with shrapnel. I will spare you any further details about the nightmare we lived through that day and the recovery that has followed, but miraculously, me and my family all made it out alive.
The anxiety and fear we have felt since that day has been debilitating. We have put in a lot of work in that short 8 weeks so we can try to feel some sort of safety and normalcy again and enjoy the things we used to, including football games.
We had been planning to come see this game for months as we donât get the opportunity to see many BYU games in person since we moved across the country for my husbandâs medical training. We almost didnât come because it felt scary and overwhelming since the attack on our church. However, we know we cannot live in fear and we need to enjoy the things that used to make us happy. We decided to come and that took a lot for us both mentally and physically. I was nervous putting on my BYU fan gear that day because I knew it would identify me as one of âthe Mormons.â I did it anyway.
I was apprehensive when I walked down to my seat and saw that the nearest exit was pretty far from me. I continued to my seat anyway. We came. We smiled. We cheered. We enjoyed ourselvesâŚ.Until the University of Cincinnati fans began to chant âF** the Mormons.â*
This is not a new chant. This is not a chant that is specific to your university. This is a chant Iâve heard before while enjoying a football game whether in-person or on tv. Itâs always disheartening to hear. However, now that we Mormons have been quite literally targeted, attacked, chased, shot at, and some of us have been killed simply for being âMormon,â this chant is no longer just disheartening. Itâs crippling. Itâs personal. Itâs unacceptable. Period.
While I did hear the announcer give a warning over the speakers at the game that such chants will not be tolerated, it was simply just that- a warning. It was not just a few fans, it was tens, possibly hundreds of the universityâs student fans chanting âF** the Mormons.â*
Please, Mr. Cunningham, do not tolerate it. Remove them from the game. Donât let them come back.
Educate them on the seriousness of their actions. Set that standard and expectation moving forward and enforce it. We are hurting. Badly. We just want to enjoy the things that make us happy again without the fear of being targeted and attacked for our religious beliefs.
I know you have no control over the Cincy fans on the shuttle after the game ranting about Mormons and how awful we are and how we must have just paid off the refs because weâre corrupt and evil. I donât get it, but I am used to it. Itâs not new to me to hear this stuff and these huge misconceptions about my faith. But now it is personal. Now it is me fearing for my life everywhere I go because someone decided to take it there. Someone tried to kill me, my kids, and my husband. Someone killed 4 of my friends. Now the chanting means something more than it used to.
I know you canât control the actions and words of the fans on the bus. However, I do believe you have the ability to get control of the studentsâ hurtful and hateful chanting.
If you made it this far, thank you for listening. If I am mistaken about any actions that were or were not taken as a result of the chanting, please feel free to correct me.
I would welcome the reassurance.
Sincerely,
Brandi Hicken
A fellow college football fan
A Mormon
A Christian
A mass casualty hate crime survivor
A human deserving of respectâ