I've learned that there are only three types of networking.
Pick wisely:
1. Go to networking events and "work the room."
Shake hands, rub shoulders, put on a smile, and charm people into doing business with you
Most people I know who work in sales (selling software, real estate, wealth management) do this
Not everyone is capable of doing this, but for those who are, they are extremely charismatic, social, outgoing, and great at what they do
2. To work on something extraordinarily interesting and get others to come to you
You could be building a startup, writing a book, or sharing unique content
You're creating magnets that attract people to you and maximizing your surface area for meeting like-minded people
Most founders, CEOs, and writers I know do this. They're focused on building their craft, and most don't have time to go to networking events
3. Be a genuinely helpful person: to give first
Strive to build a reputation for being extremely helpful, extremely generous, and, over time, extremely well-connected
By doing that, you will attract a rare kind of luck that pulls people toward you for opportunities, even if you're quietly working behind the scenes
Most successful investors and community builders I know do this.
For the longest time, I believed that if you couldn't "work a room", you would never be successful
But it's never worked for me. It feels strange and unnatural, and it's not my game
Over time, I started doing the second and third methods, and it's worked wonders for building both my network and my businesses
That's when I learned that you have to find the method that works with your personality and worldview. There is no right or wrong way, but you should play your own game.