this is a classic example of the fandom pendulum of overcorrection. The correct response to people being weird fucks with no nuance towards Shane in tlg is not to turn around and do the same to Ilya. Shane and Ilya both fuck up in the book, in very realistic and human ways
My two cents after rereading tlg, it’s literally just one guy spiraling for pages💀blaming his partner for everything and then the ending just… happens 🤷🏾♀️