Most men lose women for one reason. They lose themselves first. Frame is not confidence or money. Frame is sovereignty. I write about power, attraction, and social dynamics without moral fluff. substack.com/@ojframe?r=1ok…

“You don’t get it, do you?” Is another way of her saying when she’s done with you, she will get dump your ass. It’s also her saying you should dump her now

Dudes will tell you not to “double text.” Lol.

I observed a pattern of the craziness in the quotes The women are used to dating and being surrounded by low quality men (simps) That's why they're surprised Most women don't know a single guy with self respect until they see one

The only sign you need to end your current relationship is the one that is telling you to remain because you can't get someone else right now.

Sex first. Relationship second. Ignore this rule and suffer.

July 25th, 2023. My longest serving girlfriend broke up with me over a text. She had been a ghost for three days prior. Then, out of the blue. She sent the text that changed everything. I remember that day vividly. I felt something but I was far too detached. Why? Because I was expecting it. The constant shit tests were already a warning sign. She video called me right after. Wanting to know how I felt by the look on my face. I was jovial, calm and collected. She was disappointed by what she saw. For the next few months, She constantly blamed for not fighting for our relationship. But that wasn’t the real issue, The real issue was my identity crisis and dry spells that followed afterwards. I had been in so deep with her. That we basically co-habited every weekend. And you know what that means. Every other girl that was within my orbit and showed me green light got ignored. I wanted only my girlfriend. Then the lesson came, She left and so did the girls that were in my orbit. I was alone and cold. Months went by, I had no piece of action. No warm or cold lead, No girl giving me green light. I thought about trying to amend my relationship with my ex. But that thought was something I knew I would never translate into action. I knew I had to cold approach and generate something. I tried too but nothing happened. I thought I had lost my touch. Maybe months of not gaming other girls had me rusty. Who knows? One thing was for sure, I went months with no romance of any sort. I was in my era of solitude. I have had era's like that in the past. To me, it was always an opportunity for self-reflection and self-education. That lasted for more than a year. I learnt a lot about myself, I improved my game and social skills. Of course, there wasn't the kind of proof I would have wanted. But hey, I had to be comfortable in my own skin and frame. Eventually things changed, I went from having one girl to two girls then three. It all occurred because I fixed my frame issues and improved my game. I don't really know the moral lesson in all of this. Maybe you can find one on your own. Maybe it's the fact that we might have the same problem with women and different timelines to fix it. Maybe it's our self-identity crisis and what we project unto others. Maybe there's a lot we have learnt and have to unlearn. I am really not sure yet. I am still figuring things out myself and sharing what I learn with you. Hopefully, You can learn and unlearn much faster than I did.

“I can’t leave because another man will get the woman I built” If you have to say this. It means two things. 1. The relationship is already dead. 2. She is an asset that you are forced to hold. Simple. If you don’t want the relationship anymore, leave.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐞𝐬𝐭 You’re with your guys walking down the street. You spot a girl on the other side of the road. She catches your eyes. You want to approach. Your friends are watching. What do you do ? A Approach because you want to prove you have confidence. B Don’t approach because your friends might judge you. C Approach because you genuinely want to talk to her. D Don’t approach because you’re not interested enough.

Knowing when a girl is turned on is a must-have skill.

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Misogyny is the male response to female dysfunction. The dysfunction isn’t the issue. The response is the issue. Reactivity is still dependency.

This is your sign to only choose women that have genuine desire for you and only be with a woman that you are fucking consistently.

There are people you have known for the longest time. The usual "hey" and "hi" conversations is all you have had with them. Truth is, You might have a lot more in common with them than you think. There is a "click" waiting to be discovered. Now, It's up to you to find it.

Got some puff outside my hostel. Walk to a chilling spot on campus. Sit on a round table with two tech bros. Enjoy my puff. One of them says you are enjoying. I respond with “make man chop”. Asks where I got it. I tell him. Two minutes later. Three of us are discussing a.i agents, their tech product and Africa as their target market. An interesting 15 minutes conversation. We round up with me getting to know their names. I take my leave. Talk about engagement. Talk about finding the “click”. This is the way to engage people.

Find the click. Find what makes them tick. I usually do that through assumptions and passing judgement. But one thing I have noticed is from me hovering around them. Making one assumption, passing one judgement, asking a very peculiar question. They most times "light up" when I stumble upon one thing about them or topic in general. They become intrigued and want to know more about you. They are invested. They will start hovering around you in their own way. Some ways are bad, some are good, some take their time. Sooner or later, There's a strong connection because of the level of engagement.

People remember how an interaction felt long before they remember the information exchanged This is why two strangers can talk for ten minutes and feel a connection While two co-workers can know each other's biographies and still feel like strangers. The difference isn't information. It is engagement.

The number one fear a vast majority of men share is the fear of the unknown.. And they fear the unknown because they have the fear that they're not enough, and thus are not certain in their capability to handle what comes their way.

Dudes will meet a girl and the first thing they ask: “What’s your name?” Why??? You don't even know if the conversation is worth having, yet. Create engagement instead. Talk first. Exchange names later.