I was a disaster of a human being when I was constantly searching for people who would "meet my needs." I'd obsess about all the ways my lovers and friends weren't "meeting my needs," which were really just these specific acts and services I'd elevated in my mind as *needs* because I wanted an external reason I could obsess about as to why I wasn't happy. At some point I realized the point of a relationship was not to have my needs fulfilled, it was to express love and help the light of goodness move through me and into other people. Only when I let go of the idea of needed to be satisfied and fulfilled by my relationships, was I actually satisfied.
And ultimately, I discovered the truth is that there was one person who could fulfill it all my needs. It was me.
monogamous people are so weird to me. like you genuinely think one person is going to meet all your needs? or are you fine only having some of your needs met just so you dont have to be alone?