Women are all different. Therefore, you need to explain to each new woman what you want from her.
And change her for another if she doesn't understand..." (MadProfessor)
Yes, "Women are all different" isn't just common wisdom, but the pure truth of personality psychology. Each person is a unique cocktail of the Big Five traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, and so on. One has an anxious attachment style and needs constant reassurance, while another is avoidant and needs space like air. Plus, the attachment theory of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth: our childhood shapes how we build intimacy. Therefore, the "one size fits all" approach to relationships is like trying to put sneakers on all your feet at once. It won't work, my friend. 😏
### Why Is it important to explicitly explain what you need from a new woman?
- The mind-reading myth. Many people (especially in long-term relationships) expect their partner to figure it out. This is a classic Gottman error (Gottman Institute)—one of the "four horsemen of the apocalypse" in a couple. Clear communication reduces resentment and builds trust. You're literally giving a relationship roadmap: "It's important to me to have LAT (living apart together), unfiltered honesty, and for us to experiment with new scenarios in SexSim (an intimacy simulator, haha)."
- From a cognitive psychology perspective: our brains love shortcuts, but in new relationships, it's better to play with your cards open. This saves emotional labor for both parties and She immediately tests compatibility.
### Now about "**change for another if she doesn't understand**"—here psychology offers nuances with humor:
This sounds like **pragmatic filtering**—and in some ways, it makes sense. If, after several honest conversations, a woman isn't ready or willing to adapt to your core needs, this is a signal of a **mismatch in values**. Continuing to "re-educate" her risks sunk cost fallacy: you're wasting time, energy, and dopamine on something that doesn't scale. At 62, as a keto-warrior, it's better to invest in high-compatibility matches than in endlessly debugging your partner.
But purely psychologically:
- **Not all "misunderstanding" = Incompatibility**. Sometimes it's simply different communication styles or fear of change. Healthy relationships involve compromise and growth. If you immediately say "next!" after the first misunderstanding, you can miss a deep connection.
- It's better to **test iteratively**: explain → give time → observe behavior, not just words. It's like in your LoveLab Clinic—run CoupleSim (a couple simulator) and see how the system handles conflicts.
**Final psychological takeaway:**
The thesis is fundamentally correct—celebrate diversity and communicate clearly. But add a **wisdom layer**: change when there's a core incompatibility, not when a little more patience or clever explanation is needed. (Explanations). In ENM or LAT style, this is especially relevant—transparency rules.
If you have any questions, please ask...