I was once pitching a top VC firm for our $3M seed round coming out of YC Demo Day.
Tail end of COVID, so everything was on Zoom.
Partner meeting. No associate. Already unusual.
The partner joined right on time. Let me into the waiting room immediately.
I started sharing my deck.
He was engaged. Asked thoughtful questions. Clearly understood the market. Pushed where it made sense. Listened when I didn’t have perfect answers.
At one point I said, “We’re not sure yet, but this is how we plan to figure it out.”
He was not fazed.
The meeting ended exactly on time. No weird power move. No fake emergency. No “circle back.” No associate materializing afterward to ask the same questions again.
He just said, “We’ll get you a decision soon.”
I fully expected to never hear from him again.
This is the crazy part.
He actually followed up. Said he wanted to invest. We shook hands, signed a SAFE, and he wired the money.
That was it.
No ghosting. No weird negging. No performative partner theater. No one fell asleep.
Just a respectful process with a clear yes.
2022 fundraising hit different.
I was once pitching in a board room at a top 3 VC firm for a $15M Series A.
12 people in the meeting. One of the GPs fully fell asleep. Out cold for 30 minutes. Nobody acknowledged it. Everyone just kept going.
I kept presenting my Series A slides to an unconscious man in a Herman Miller chair and somehow that was considered normal. That's venture capital.
You might fly across the country to perform for people who may or may not be conscious.
It's a dance.
And sometimes you lead and sometimes you follow and sometimes your partner is unconscious.
If you're raising right now, just know: every founder has a story like this. The process is weird. The power dynamic is weird. You're not crazy for thinking it's weird.
No one talks about it because they want to continue raising. But I'm happy to stick my neck out there.
It is weird.