I came across a tweet today that inspired me to write this. If you’re bored enough to read it, I welcome your perspective. The divide between men and women in America is widening, and it is more than culture-war drama on television. The stakes are far higher.
The Western world is shrinking. Birth rates are below replacement everywhere, and each generation is smaller than the one before it. Traditions, families, holidays, and culture are disappearing. Some people actually want this to happen. You know the ones. They write “Cisheteronormative Christofascist” on your coffee cup at Starbucks before they hand it to you 11 minutes after you place your order.
Fair enough, but they should probably consider this. There are other cultures that are not declining. Some are doubling or tripling replacement rates. And those cultures treat women like property.
That matters, because cultures compete. Demographics are destiny.
The uncomfortable truth is this: if current trends continue, the future will not be ruled by secular liberal values. It will belong to hardline theocracies that make today’s evil male-dominated patriarchy look like a spa retreat.
Before I continue, let me be clear: I love women. I have even married a couple of them. I desperately wish that no woman ever suffers at the hands of a man.
With that out of the way, I have some things to say about modern feminism.
First, you’ve won. Women have won. You can stop now. And I mean this literally: the data proves it. Women are outperforming men across every measure of success and happiness. Life expectancy, high school graduation rates, college enrollment, degree attainment, standardized reading and writing scores, higher GPAs, lower incarceration rates, lower rates of violent crime involvement, you name it.
Women even vote at higher rates, which means you have more political power. You’re winning so hard that men are literally putting on dresses and trying to become you. Where is the oppression? The data no longer supports the activism. Much like ‘structural racism’ the patriarchy no longer exists in this realm. Rather, it’s a dark cloud following every feminist.
And like structural racism, the patriarchy is responsible for every perceived injustice the feminist experiences. This robs women of the ability to critically examine themselves. If the Chinese guy at the restaurant gets your order wrong every time and you blame the evil male-dominated-patriarchy, you might never learn that you suck at Mandarin and you’ve been ordering “Chicken and Concrete” instead of “Chicken and Broccoli.”
Men and women are inherently different, not in a way that makes one superior to the other, but in their natural aptitudes for specific tasks. These differences aren’t solely the result of socialization; they’re rooted in our biology and emerge organically.
The strength of humanity lies in the complementary nature of men and women. Our differences are not weaknesses but the foundation of our collective power. A partnership between a man and a woman brings together the full spectrum of human capabilities, enabling couples to achieve more than either could alone. Each brings unique tools to the table, forming a complete set of skills that can tackle life’s challenges.
We are simultaneously telling young men and young women to resist and suppress the parts of their personality that are the most important and the most instinctual. We should never attempt to eliminate these differences. We should embrace them. We should celebrate them.
If we don’t, we might be condemning future women to a fate far worse than that of the "traditional American housewife."