In a weird way, the cost of being a ''loser'' has never been loser, but the work involved to be a winner has never been higher.
You can legitimately skate by doing the absolute bare minimum, but have ample high quality free sources of entertainment to you. At no other point in human history could you access endless creature comforts and ways to keep busy without leaving the house.
On the other hand the work involved in achieving the things that many expected in the past (own a property, in a relationship, good job & friend group) does genuinely seem much harder than before. You look at the high unemployment rate amongst recent university graduates, housing affordability, and the shrinking number of married people.
So you end up with this weird air gap, wherein you can lay in the dumps so to speak, and be endlessly entertained by porn, video games, doomscroling -- genuinely disincentivizing growth. But to get to the other side much more is required of you. It's no wonder modern society resembles that of pre modern times, with such huge gaps in outcomes. The return of the inverted bell curve
If you don't begin your career at a top-tier firm these days I recommend some combination of grifting and rotting.
If your job sucks, you're already being grifted by society and there's very little upward mobility these days.
Your only recourse is grift back or lower effort.