No one has stronger opinions than someone who knows a little bit about something, thatโs why tourists always have ideas to โfixโ the countries they visit, thatโs why amateurs love to criticize professionals, thatโs why young people love to judge older people: the more you know, the more humble and nuanced you actually become.
It's tempting to believe that your struggles are due to your lack of intelligence or talent; when in the majority of cases, it's because of your lack of emotional control and self-discipline.
American politics today epitomizes dualistic, either/or, win/lose, us vs them, immature thinking. It's bad for individuals, our country, and the world.
We live in a world of nuance. Real issues are layered/complex. Sound bites and tribal loyalty won't get us where we need to go.
Investing and fitness are very similar.
Everyone wants a short cut, the next thing, when really you just need to stay in a boring index fund for a long time.
Everyone wants the fancy workout, when you need the basics for a long time.
An absurd ideological belief is a form of tribal signalling. It signifies that one considers their ideology more important than truth, reason, sanity. To one's allies, this is an oath of unwavering loyalty. To one's enemies, it is a threat display.
The most expensive tasks that brains do are (1) moving your body and (2) learning something new. They have a metabolic cost that may feel unpleasant.
So, feeling bad doesn't always mean that something bad happened. You might just be doing something really hard.
Endurance sport is mental training.
You are alone in your head for long periods of time with ever increasing levels of discomfort. You have a concrete goal that half your mind is screaming to abandon.
You repeat this day after day and have no option but to figure it out.
Mindful awareness is so profoundly human that you donโt need anyone to teach you how to do it, but using it to develop empowering attention skills on your own can be tricky.
It helps to have someone convince you such an odd-sounding hobby is worth exploring and that youโre not doing it wrong when you try.
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This is why mindfulness practice can be much more satisfying than just trying to be calm. It can be about letting our unpleasant feelings reveal what we care about, easing up on ourselves when weโre hurting, and feeling closer to the people we love.
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