I’ll say this until I’m blue in the face:
The way people have lost sight of secure attachment as the goal/ideal, in favor of a binary that paints avoidants as villains, & those with anxious attachment styles as victims is really toxic.
i’ve been on the anxious side and i’ve been on the avoidant side, like wholeheartedly each. and i can say that anxious folks don’t get the same amount of shit that avoidants do.