I left also, and I also know people in Nigeria who are doing extremely well. Their products and services are moving in high volumes because their customers are wealthy wholesalers or elites with money. Some have received government patronage or are moving in the right circles, so are rolling in it. But some of them also rode on their parents' names or friends to get scholarships or placement into their positions, or a family business that was set up when times were better, or were born or married into money. Many had families who paid for their graduate schools, housing, weddings and more. Many were selectively awarded opportunities due to their relationships. Most were able to access capital in the millions to multiply.
But if you are starting as an ordinary person with no connections and no family name or capital, no special friends in high places, no leg up for housing, employment, contracts, or postgrad courses, and no way to serve a politician or senior civil servant to access contracts and 'seats', then abroad gives you fairer opportunities. Yes, you may start off at the bottom, and you will have to deal with heavy bills yourself instead of family contributing or helping you to stay in a family-owned accommodation. But if you have a good investment strategy, you can build an honest portfolio and retire without ever having to have favours done or "gifts" given by your parents' friends, family members, or the ranks of the political elite. You can unlock more capital through your own savings and equity from your assets, and you can build a team around you within a year of focussed work.
I suppose those from a collectivist culture may find an individualist culture not conducive to peace of mind, and that's fair enough. It's just good to keep things in perspective about whether opportunities are equally accessible to everyone.
Personally, I prefer being a nobody and not being favoured by anyone or accessing things due to relationships. I don't want anyone handing me a huge sum because of what I can do for them outside my usual work. If you want, pay for my legitimate services at the rates I set. If I go the extra mile for you, it's because that's the sort of person I am, not because I want your tips or favours. And I certainly don't want to have to pretend I like you and shower you with false praises just for you to keep favouring me. I don't want to feel pressured to also help my friends and dependents through my position.
Moreover, I don't feel safe with classist and feudal mentalities around me.
I left Nigeria in 2020 and some of the friends I left are now millionaires, one is even a billionaire. Some of you have a small mindset that you think people working warehouse night shifts abroad have made it in your eyes.