Important thread about DV. "Why doesn't she leave?" is NOT the question we should be asking. If we want to help women, we have to ask the right questions. "Why isn't he arrested?" And my own addition to this thread: "Why does the law protect his rights more than hers?"
I came across something I wrote some years back, and I think it is relevant to the "Man or Bear?" conversation. So, a thread, but first some observations:
When a woman is in an abusive relationship, what's the first thing people say?
"Why doesn't she just leave?"