I wish those people hadn't lead to her apparently protecting her account because she seems wonderful and I like this particular take. I also understand the wisdom though. Not even just from the people who were causing her guff.
This is good proper internet protocol to stem the flow of the uncontrolled ID if the internet from eating your entire feed and all replies.
Still, I've looked at her site and her shop and I feel that anyone who follows me in earnest should follow her themselves as there is some cross bleed in not only life approach but interests. Especially if you care for journaling or the darker side of amusement, she seems to be doing well with it.
And as for Onyx herself, I appreciate your ability to accept a thing for the nature of it without taking it into the tribal thought that robs us of reason. I am also sorry to hear of your health, but I am glad you have found a measure of peace within it. I hope it becomes stable enough to simply be a matter of routine no different than a cup of coffee to start a morning.
I appreciate what I've seen from your posts and hope the algorithm brings more of them to my timeline.
Several men have reached out privately after seeing the “vitriol” around my recent posts. Their word, not mine. They made it clear they don’t claim the men spreading hate, and they appreciated that I try to speak with nuance.
And to be clear, these are not all people others would expect to agree with a statement like “women belong in gaming spaces.”
That is part of why this matters to me.
I honestly don’t read quote tweets or open hostile DMs. The previews alone are usually enough to tell me some people are deeply upset and not regulating it well.
But I do notice when people approach with respect.
Some of them follow accounts and communities many people would immediately turn into labels, assumptions or boxes used to stop thinking.
That is exactly why I don’t like reducing people to political cartoons.
I follow people from all kinds of politics, backgrounds, beliefs and life experiences because I love learning. I love diving deep. If that was not already obvious from my walls of text.
People have literally told me they were surprised by how much common ground we had once they approached me like a person instead of an enemy.
That is why I don’t disclose my political identity.
The second people think they know your “side,” they start importing stereotypes, expectations and purity tests.
Then if you say one thing that does not fit their image of that side, they cast you out.
I appreciate the men who came to me with respect, even when we do not agree on everything. Disagreement does not mean there is no common ground.
You will never discover what you share with someone if you enter every conversation swinging.