Do you have to be dissatisfied to be driven?
James Clear: I look at my current state and I realize there's a gap between where I am and where I want to be. And that dissatisfaction with that gap is what drives you forward. It's the drive to close the gap that gets you to show up and work hard or take the test or do the thing.
And I think certainly there are many times in my life when that has been the driving force. But the healthiest response I think that I've come up with, or the counterpoint, is imagine that like an acorn falls from a tree and it manages to take root and starts to grow. And at first it's just this little acorn and then it's a sapling and then it grows into this eventually this large mature oak.
And at no point in that process was it like berating itself for only being an acorn or for only being a sapling, right? For not being enough yet, for not being big enough, for not having achieved that outcome. Nobody looks at it and thinks, "Oh, what a failure. You aren't a full oak tree yet." And yet, despite that, there isn't this dissatisfaction going on. It continues to grow.
And I think the answer there is it grows simply because that is what an oak tree does. It grows because that is what it is encoded to do. And so I feel like the healthiest version of me, like just flowing with it, you know, or just stepping into it is:
What do I feel like I'm encoded to do?
This is my strength.
This is what I like.
It lights me up.
It makes me feel alive.
And then I can be quite driven and not feel dissatisfied in the moment.
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