imho all personal essays should be, in some way, a self-immolation. if men are not doing it, this is a reflection of moral and intellectual cowardice/inadequacy under the guise of superiority
The personal essay that lets the writer self-immolate is a genre, and it's been a genre for at least a decade, but what's interesting is that it's a genre only for women.*
* to write. Anyone can enjoy reading it.