I help busy professionals attract higher quality women and get genuine desire from them without cheesy pickup tactics or endless approaches
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Jun 9
Why does the modern day dating scene feel so hard?
I've identified 3 main causes of this
There's certainly a lot more to it....
But these are top levers to pull to change if you want to start having fun with dating again
1) You're not going after what you want properly
There are two main scenarios here
-The guy who wants hookups but is trying to get girls through overly long romantic courtships where he is giving off the wrong impression
-The guy who wants a relationship but is trying to go for club queens and party girls
For the guy who wants hookups...
Stop trying to trick the girl by acting like you're husband material
Go all in on being the bad boy and MOVE FAST with girls
Have hangout dates at your place, or go to a venue nearby and make it clear that if you guys vibe you want her to come back and enjoy the rest of the night with you
That way expectations are aligned and then no one is frustrated anymore!
It's better for men and women
For the guy who wants relationships....
Stop going after club queens and party girls
Are there party girls who are awesome and make great gf's? Yes actually
I have met several of them myself and we had fantastic chemistry
However we are talking about averages here...
Look at her values and behavior
What does she spend her time doing? If it's all superficial stuff - partying, drinking, drugs ....
It's likely bad news for long term
If she likes staying in, reading, has great career aspirations (while being humble and not a boss babe), values family and integrity...
Likely great news in the long term
Which btw... a lot of this is solved by RUNNING VOLUME
So KEEP MEETING WOMEN
2) Presentation isn't matching your goals
If you look like a meek nice sweet guy and act like it, don't expect to get fast intimacy
If your entire vibe is cringe fuck boy, don't expect to get relationships
Balance the two based on your goals
For hookups lean more to fuck boy with still some warmth mixed in
For relationship showcase long term value but maintain your sexual edge
3) You have a dating skill issue
Pay attention to the critical escalation windows of a seduction and watch out for repeated failures
Here are the windows
-Opener/Approach
-Vibe after
-Date request
-Date setup
-Date itself
-Converting date to a hookup or sex
Here's a tip that will help with ALL of these....
Fix your mindset around insecurities
This is the biggest reason guys mess up at each one of these points
They do not feel worthy so they are not playing to win
Trust me when I say this
Girls are very forgiving of your flaws if you carry yourself with confidence, charisma, and are a sociable/cool guy
So internalize this, and play to win
The good faith girls are hoping that you do so....
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Jun 6
This fact shouldn't anger men
They are the ones who lead with being a soft, golden retriever, over comfort giving, provider type
With zero lover boy charm mixed in
So of course she will dread having sex with him
She doesn't have raw primal desire for this type of husband archetype
This is why the women who go overly safe mode and filter for nothing but this archetype by abandoning an interaction any time a guy at all displays lover charm
She does so because she thinks that she doesn't have a chance to tame him and that all he wants is a hookup
So she is setting herself up to be miserable
So both sides have skill issues with this topic
A woman should let chemistry flow naturally and use her feminine power to win over his heart versus being scared and running away if he has any type of lover charm
Then she can get the guy who gives her lover and provider energy
Meanwhile the man should stop trying to lead with being a provider
Nothing wrong with providing for a woman
But if that's all you bring to the table
Don't be surprised when she just sees you as a walking ATM machine
Jun 3
The honest truth is that a lot of married women and women in long-term relationships feel this way. I realize this will anger many men, but it’s pretty normal. I don’t know what the solution is, I just know it’s common
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Jun 5
Lol
Over and over again, I’ve lost count of the girls who have told me their ex was this evil narcissist
And yet that was the guy that they let put a baby in her or stayed with for several years
The stated preference ideal guy who’s this sweet golden retriever yes man servant is great for optics
But it’s not who you give lustful primal desire to
No, I’m not saying you have to be a narcissist to get Girls
In fact, you can absolutely get girls by being a loving caring person
But suggesting that all you gotta do to be the ideal guy is to prioritize the girls preference
As if you should have no concern for your preferences
Is total nonsense
Jun 5
"But if your absolute ideal guy with the best energy offered drinks or coffee you would fight him on it? "
The absolute ideal guy has no problem prioritising your preferences.Thinking this is a "fight" just made him wayyy less of an "ideal guy".Y assumes ur actions don't matter?
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Jun 4
Haha yes I do not subscribe to that belief
It's red pill, arm chair philosopher BS
A woman doesn't just become a slave bc she's attracted nor should that at all be the expectation
With that being said...
In my experience dating ACROSS THE AVG OF THE MARKET
A woman who fights the date idea (unless there's a legit reason ofc for not wanting to do say drinks bc she doesn't drink alcohol)
Ends up being a combative pain more often than not on other stuff too
A man is supposed to lead, right? He's supposed to be the man with the plan?
One of the most common funny bios I see in my time online dating is "my worst hell is having to pick the date idea"
Again ... I know this isnt indicative of all women
And I do NOT believe in this autistic "the man should dictate everything for the woman" nonsense that the manosphere preaches
And I'm not saying that all men should only go after fully submissive fully compliant women who never help him grow or improve also...
Just saying what I've observed across the market actually dating in the field
And that is if she's fighting a completely reasonable coffee/drinks date
Where the objective should be getting to know someone
Then she often ended up being overly masculine boss babe argumentative type that doesn't let chemistry flow naturally
Dont shoot the messenger
Jun 4
I mean... yeah.
I had a guy I found super hot suggest we go for a walk & I was like nah, let's do an art fest. Then we got dinner.
I'm not saying I'd never do drinks or coffee but women have preferences & they don't always disappear just because a guy's attractive.
It's like men think any boundaries or preferences on her part are a sign she's not REALLY into him and I'm sorry but have you considered how incredibly toxic and limiting that worldview is?
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Jun 2
One of the most common questions I get from clients and friends is
What is the best dating app?
My answer might surprise some of you ....
There is no "best"
They all truly have an even mix of cool girls and girls you want to avoid
Sure they have their reputations
Tinder is technically more hookup oriented while Hinge and Bumble are more relationship oriented
But you would actually be quite surprised at how many girls that do NOT fit those stereotypes are on those apps
Because of this my recommendation is simple
Use All of The Gold Standard Apps - Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Facebook Dating
This is because meeting the most women is the #1 way to having a happy dating life
Even if you're looking for something serious
When you cast the widest net you
-Don't have to put up with bad behavior
-Have a natural aura of abundance and confidence
-Maximize chances of meeting your perfect 10/10 (because who the hell wants to settle?!)
-Find a girl who has similar morals and values
-Avoid the trap of backwards rationalizing that she's the best when she actually is NOT the best
And on and on...
So don't be afraid of getting on all of them
You never know what hidden gems you might find...
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May 31
Yep this is a common thing and theres some key psychological components going on
1) Awkward angle
No matter how good you look and how good the lighting is, the selfie view will not portray you in the best look
If a girl is lower awareness this will trigger an ick
2) Impossible to generate chemistry
If you were ever wondering what "chemistry" entails
It's giving a girl the tingles down low
This comes from verbal flirting, sensual talk (that gradually escalates to sexual talk), and most importantly -- TOUCH
Guess what you can not do on Facetime?
Thats right... TOUCH
3) Kills the mystery
It creates a cat catching the ball of yarn effect and no longer there's an allure there
Maybe you were different than how she was expecting you and this incongruence also triggered an ick
4) If she demanded a vibe check and you just gave into it
If she wants it for a safety reason that's acceptable. Just know that 1-3 could still apply unfortunately. However if shes demanding to "vibe check" then it's basically over
Girls who use this language are almost always assholes
They are actively looking for a reason to disqualify you and are not coming from good energy
Have never had a good outcome from a girl demanding this
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So yeah... a small box on a digital screen is quite literally the worst way you could meet someone for the first time
A girl who is higher intelligence won't be turned off by these things bc she will be aware of them
However if she's more on the air head/ ditzy side or is a party girl (where if you flinch the wrong way they are gone)
Then FT will definitely make her disappear
If you have the fundamentals down and you dont look like a catfish and are a general cool dude
Just know it was the dynamic of the meeting and the girl being lower awareness that caused her to disappear
May 31
Never do a “FaceTime date” unless it’s to call her for 10 seconds to tell her what to wear to your actual date (shoutout @rachcorrine
Brutal HR text
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May 30
It's funny to me seeing stuff popping up on the timeline like "oh you used punctuation and emojis man, bad game"
Like yes things like that have some "technical correct game to them"
But my biggest takeaway from many years being at this
Is that so much of PUA tactics and strategies just involve putting up with bad behavior lol
It's absolutely comical to me to watch people lost in the micro
When occams razor.... the girl was just a pain in the ass
If something as simple as using an emoji makes a girl disappear
Then yes... you do not want that girl anyways
And no this is not cope
It's just straight facts
I'm speaking from experience here as someone who DID try to do the "get any and every girl utilize all pickup tactics" pathway
And looking back
So much of my dating "struggles" was actually just me dealing with an annoying, overly bratty, obnoxious girl
There is absolutely still correct strategy with how to date in 2026
But the focus needs to be on MACRO strategy
Things like
-Proper pictures for your online dating profile
-Texting frameworks (versus obsessing over micro texting stuff like punctuations and emojis)
-Conversation skills
-How to arouse a girl
-Best ways to get intimate with her
-How to treat her so she wants to keep seeing you
-What to do if you don't hook up on the first date
-How to screen in the cool, fun girls
etc etc
Versus obsessing over things like
-Being scared if your compliment "gives away your power"
-Don't stand facing her direct
-Don't use emojis
-Talk with downward vocal inflection
-Tactical ways to deal with brattiness/annoying/overly dramatic behavior instead of just moving on and finding a different girl
Once you can discern the difference between a normal mating dance and a girl who's just full of bad energy
Your dating life becomes so much more pleasant
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May 23
Because people only share toxic stuff on the internet a lot of guys think that women are punishing men for doing these things
No... you confused being a giver for being weak, simpy, and needy
Those are completely different things
Yes you can treat women extremely well and bring tons of joy to their life
As long as you dont do it from a place of expecting things back or become needy and overbearing
You can be as loving and romantic as you want
Keep your sexual lover edge as well and you will be absolutely adored
Use this power for good tho as you will enchant the women you meet
May 23
Become addicted to giving women pleasure.
Enjoy giving them laughs, smiles, wisdom, an attentive ear, and orgasms.
The best way to do this is be the most attractive version of yourself.
Fall in love with loving women.
The IQ check on this post is that if you read that and asked, "WOAH, are you saying to simp or to lower ourselves to women to make them happy at our own expense?"
Then you failed the check.
Any man who knows women knows that being strong (not letting yourself be desperate or disrespected) is a non-negotiable part of being attractive to women.
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May 22
Stop taking dating so seriously
One of the most toxic things about of this hustle bro/RP/Manosphere culture is this obsession with being this masculine, stoic, overly focused robot
Here's a newsflash guys - girls value FUN and GOOD FEELINGS above all else
If you aren't bringing relaxing, good, lighthearted energy then girls will not want to be around you
Red pill is soo concerned with optics and looking like this masculine perfect alpha dog
Who gives a SHIT about optics?
Life is already hard enough and has it's fair share of gloomy moments
So use dating as a moment to escape the mundane of life
When I hang out with girls, we will watch movies, order pizzas, have sleep overs, go swimming
Literally all child activities
And guess what? We are both on cloud 9 the whole time
Happy hormones going absolutely crazy
It's an incredible refresher from the day to day muck that we deal with in life
You feel like a renewed human after hanging out with a cool, sweet, feminine girl
So stop taking dating so seriously
Work on being better and bringing better energy so you screen in the awesome, feminine girls (yes they are still in the field)
And be ruthless about screening out the girls who are bringing you pain and misery
And then bring out that inner child
And watch girls adore you for it
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May 20
Crazy how PC these dating apps are
They want us to date like platonic robots
I get "sexually explicit content" warnings from some of the most mildest flirts from girls
Makes things uneasy because who knows what's being marked like that on their end when you send messages
But it continues to amaze me the war on all things sexual
It's like our culture is terrified of that side of ourselves so every force converges on trying to make sure you suppress it
I first caught onto this in noticing how American movies can have
1) blood, gore, guts, beheadings
And be rated pg13
But if it had
2) nudity
Automatic R
Truly amazing once you see it you can't unsee it
Most everyone is afraid of their sexuality
Fuck that
Your sexual side is one of the greatest gifts that have been given to us for this life
EMBRACE IT AND OWN IT
Be a romantic flirt, a lover of women
And trust me, they will love you back for it
...Just don't get banned on the apps
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May 18
I write the bios and prompts for my clients and I gotta point out something hilarious...
I do this completely from my own brain with no AI assistance
And the funny thing is
AI is absolute GARBAGE and creating bios
It shows very clearly where AI is extremely limited
It just cannot understand the subtlety's and nuance of attraction and how it works
It either creates something nonsensical or something totally outlandish and retarded that makes zero sense
AI is very much a tool and not a replacement for higher level work
It will systematize the mundane stuff for sure
But advanced higher level emotionally intelligent critical thinking will still be reserved for humans
At least for now
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May 16
This girl is a nightmare
BUT this is a prime example of what can happen if you are higher value than the girl and you treat her like she's going to be an easy hookup with the overt player act
Your attainability is already low due to your higher status so she's on edge about whether she thinks she can get with you or not
Women will naturally react in a combative way to try to check your ego when you come in guns blazing "Im just gonna use you as a piece of meat hookup" type of energy as a higher value dude
A lot of guys have this problem where they escape the friend zone, nice guy vibe
But because they dont fully understand what women want
They just go all in on asshole/fuck boy game
Well hostile reactions is what you will get when you do this my friend
ESPECIALLY in today's current dating scene
With the tea app and are we dating the same guy having girls on edge about fuck boys
Be more warm and romantic while still maintaining your unapologetic sexual edge
This is the way
May 14
Modern woman goes on a first date with pirates pitcher Chris Devenski and tells all after he attempted to persuade her to go back to his place. Thoughts ⁉️👑
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May 15
This is total bull shit and projection
People who hold this view see hot women getting worshipped non stop and then think the same applies for guys
Here's a service announcement -- A man's value is in his confidence, charisma, social skills, and ability to inspire others
NOT how handsome he looks
Does being handsome have pros to it? Of course
But many dudes, especially with this looks maxing craze, are SEVERELY over estimating it
I was blessed genetics looks wise
And guess what? I was not exempt from learning game
In fact the most shocking revelation to me was once I reached my aesthetic peak
Just showing up and looking good at the club did NOT yield all the girls swarming me 24/7
I would get approached yes, but WAY less than folks may think
As a man you must put in the work to get what you want
When I was a beginner at dating I still
-didnt know how to text
-Would meet girls who were interested and engaged at bars and clubs but they'd inevitably excuse themselves never to come back
-played things a bit too safe and got "no chemistry" zoned
-Had severe approach anxiety
-Didn't know when it was time to move a girl to the next stage of the courtship
NONE OF THESE ITEMS ABOVE ARE RENDERED MOOT DUE TO LOOKS
It requires game and strategy
You do not get exempt from playing the game of life because you look good
Also a side tangent...
Yes girls have more sway with their looks, but don't think they get passes for existing either
She has to work on that aesthetic look by going hard in the gym, eating properly, and developing her charm as well
So this is a universal human requirement - work is still necessary to get what you want
There's no such thing as a free lunch
May 14
Красивый мужчина просто существует, и вещи, о которых вы мечтаете, просто случаются с ним. Ему не приходилось самосовершенствоваться, чтобы завести девушку; он просто подумает, что было бы круто и весело сходить в клубас и какая-то девушка обязательно проявит к нему внимание. Во этом нет никакого расчета, эти вещи просто произошли благодаря естественному течению жизни. Если тебе повезло с генетикой, ты никогда не обнаруживаешь себя однажды ночью лежащим в полном одиночестве и задающимся вопросом, почему у тебя нет ни одного друга или почему ты ни разу не целовал девушку в 23 года. Ты не придумываешь план перестать трогать свой член на полгода, чтобы просто суметь посмотреть девушке в глаза. Ты просто существуешь, плывешь по социальному течению, и в итоге у тебя появляется жена, хорошая работа, дом и дети. Ну а если ты выпал из этого потока, то это означает, что в генетическую лотерею ты проиграл, и не стоит тешить себя ложными надеждами когда-либо заполучить отношения.
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May 10
I see a lot of folks claiming that the girls are lying about not having sex with the guys
Why is this so hard to believe?
It’s been made pretty evident how simpy and desperate men can be
Even high-quality ones
So you best believe these older men are paying for these girls while being content with just getting some attention from them in exchange
They don’t have any leverage to demand sex
One of my female friends at brunch is casually explaining her roster of 50 year old men who fund different parts of her life
One pays for dinners
One gave her an Uber card
One buys her clothes/jewelry
Another sends random “hope you’re having a great week” money
She has slept with exactly NONE of them
What the hell is going on out there?
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May 9
Yesterday I posted about how you need to have a play to win mindset and not worry about age
But it is critical to understand you have to put in the work to maintain your attractiveness
This is exactly why
In order to still be attractive to younger girls you must put lots of effort into staying healthy, in shape, and a socially high value guy to be around
You don't have to go crazy with looks maxing but definitely be in shape, take care of your skin, and have a nice bright white smile
Hopefully by that time your social skills are already well developed so you can spend more time on your physique once you're older
But make no mistake
This whole "men dont hit the wall" narrative is BS
You must make active serious efforts to avoid hitting the wall because it does exist for men too...
Father time is a formidable foe
May 9
Yes. Men lose their minds when I point this out.
But I have literally never met a girl who actually desired a 10 year age gap. And every single 20 something woman I’ve known has looked at 40 yo men hitting on them like a perverted uncle.
Some make concessions for money. But it’s not their preference. And divorce rates are higher in these demographics because they were always conceding on the ideal partner.
*Sometimes life happens and these gaps occur spontaneously. It is what it is. But it’s not the preference, and it’s not common.
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May 9
So the same guy that wants you to live in a cardboard box and eat ramen also wants you to pay off a girlfriends debt
Sounds about right
Quick side tangent on this dude...
I have always HATED this scarcity mindset around money
Everyone who is obnoxiously froogle ends up getting wrecked one way or another
It's like the universe senses the fear and manifests scenarios to keep you broke
Start seeing money as a tool to improve your life
Personally I have no problem spending money on self development items
-Supplements
-Peptides
-Highest quality food
-Massage
-Nice neighborhood to live in
-Krav Maga training
So many of these items Dave would crucify me for
And yet they keep me at the top of my game and keep my mind sharp so I can be the best coach for my clients
Which in turn makes me more money than if I wasn't doing these things
So yeah...
Enough of this coward money mindset
Abundance mindset pays off
In all areas of life
Dave Ramsey tells a nurse to dump her boyfriend after he refuses to propose until she pays off $90K in debt
Caller: "I’m a 26 year old nurse with $90K in student loans. My boyfriend makes $250K a year, but he won’t propose until I’m completely debt free"
Dave: "Dump him. He’s making you prove your worth based on money. You’re having to buy your way into this relationship"
"The No. 1 cause of divorce in North America today is money fights and money problems and guess what this is? This is a money fight"
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May 8
The problem with this shit is the classic fallacy of averages
Statistics don’t factor in your heart and your desire
So yeah, maybe for most average chumps the wall hits them
But if you’re obsessed with constant self improvement and being the best you can be
Those stats don’t mean jack shit
Because those stats don’t take into your refusal to accept defeat and your desire to win in life
I know I’m gonna be supremely confident about age not being a problem in my dating life as I get older
But it’s because I’m putting in the work and I have the heart and desire to be the best I can be
The confidence crisis that men have is understandable, but you’ve gotta say enough is enough and get out of it
Sometimes humility needs to take a backseat and you need to believe in yourself to the fullest degree
Your thoughts determine your actions and your actions determine your results
Remember that
May 8
Dating expert says men lose up to 50% of their dating market value after turning 35
“Once you hit like 35, girls are gonna start to think, ‘Why are you 35? You’re not married, you don’t have kids, you don’t have a house?’ Statistically, from the data, let’s say you have your exact profile now and you’re 34 years old and you’re getting 10 out of 10 results. If you just turn 35 or 40, you will see at minimum a 30 to 50% decrease in your results”
“I had a client in New York. He’s a partner at one of the largest Fortune 500 companies here in Manhattan, and he goes to events, networks, like these sort of social events, and there’s an age limit for them, 38 years old. If you’re over 38, you can’t go. They don’t allow people at these events”
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May 8
This is a huge problem for a lot of guys
To stay in touch in between the day you schedule the date and the day of the date or not
That just depends if the girl is more of a connection type girl and/or if she’s anxiously attached type
If she’s connection based and anxious, she she’ll take silence as you not being interested anymore
Just ping her with a quick fun check in text if it’s more than two days out
Now if she’s more of the short response, busy life, slow response time type… you don’t need to communicate in between
If you chat with them too much, they might get annoyed or think you’re needy
I know this might seem annoying, but you gotta realize people have different personalities, psychological makeups beliefs, etc
Based on various different upbringings genetic tendencies, and experiences
So yeah, some of this stuff can seem like a lot of work, but human interactions are complex🤷♂️
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