Don't marry a man who isn't obsessed with you.
Really. Compromise on any other thing: looks, money, whatever, before that.
He'll always resent you, he'll always secretly suspect that you represent the floor and not the ceiling of what he "could get". Just don't do it.
my wife stalked me like an oblivious savannah prey for a full year while i dated an unending stream of other women and her friends begged her to wake up and move on, now we're married and i couldn't possibly be more devoted to her. this take is dumb, women have agency. go after what you want, make yourself visible, astral project into his dreams if you have to.