The female embryo is the default state. We all have nipples for a reason. What turns it male is when it's acted upon by androgens in the womb. The male fetus is acted upon, it becomes. The female fetus is: it exists in the absence of action. Being vs becoming.
Masculinization is a developmental street. Consider why there is no feminine equivalent for "emasculating". Feminization is the default state, it is where we all start.
Female is the basin every body relaxes into when the build is not instructed otherwise. The passive state. The male is energetically expensive; he's biologically invested in to become something else.
The creature that emerges is then calibrated, neurologically and physically, to act upon the world. Wired to navigate, compete, build, intrude. And because the construction was costly and conditional, the world that selected for it priced it accordingly. Male value is what it DOES, not what it IS. Action is the ledger because action is what built it.
The below statement is not a universal male fantasy. The effeminate male wants out of this contract. He wants to be valuable the way a woman is valuable: for what he is, not what he does. This is the delusion of every Blank Slate complaint: the refusal to accept that your value was assigned in utero, and that the assignment was extrinsic.
Men are what they do. Because women are born, men are made.
This tweet made a lot of guys mad because a universal male fantasy is the fantasy of being loved without having to compete, without having to perform competence.