Before you say, “I do,” take time to visit your fiancé’s family home. Understand the environment that shaped them, the values they inherited, and the relationships they grew up around. Are kindness, respect and accountability present, or are there patterns of cruelty, conflict, manipulation and unresolved trauma? Is there witchcraft in their bloodline? Is suicide a generational matter in their DNA?
Meeting someone in Nairobi and rushing into marriage without understanding their background can become one of the most consequential emotional and financial decisions of your life. Love matters, but love alone does not reveal a person’s attitude toward money, family, responsibility, conflict or commitment.
Marriage is not merely a romantic decision. It is also a financial, social and generational partnership. You are not only choosing someone to love; you are choosing someone with whom you may build a home, raise children, manage resources and face life’s hardest seasons.
Many relationships fail because people prepare for the wedding but never investigate whether they are genuinely compatible for marriage. Before committing, discuss finances, family expectations, debt, faith, children, boundaries, conflict resolution and long-term goals. Love should lead the decision—but wisdom must guide it.